I recently stumbled upon an article of how a 25 year lady suffered from kidney stone for a long time without knowing she had kidney stone until it got really critical.
Only if she had information on the symptoms of this disease. So I went straight to my best friend which is the internet to check up for an article that will best explain this deadly disease.
This is courtesy "EVERYDAY HEALTH" :
What Are Kidney Stones?
There are several different types of kidney stones, but each of them can cause a lot of pain. Kidney stones are small chunks of solid material that can form in your kidneys, a pair of organs that filter your blood.
The "stones," which are usually yellow and brown, vary in size and shape.
For instance, some may be jagged and as small as a grain of sand, while others may be lumpy and the size of golf balls. A stone may stay in the kidney or travel down the urinary tract — the body's waste and excess-water drainage system — and get stuck, causing severe pain in the belly or side of the back. Other symptoms may include nausea, chills, and blood in the urine.
Prevalence and Demographics of Kidney Stones
Kidney stones are one of the most common disorders of the urinary tract, resulting in more than a million visits to health care providers and 300,000 emergency room visits each year in the United States, according to the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases (NIDDK).
About one in 11 people in the United States, or 8.8 percent of the population, have had a kidney stone, according to a 2012 report in the journal European Urology.
Kidney stones affect both men and women, though struvite stones are more common in women and uric acid stones are more common in men. Overall, however, the prevalence of kidney stones is higher in men than women. Kidney stones are also more common in obese people than non-obese people, and less common in non- Hispanic African and Mexican-Americans than in non- Hispanic Caucasians, according to the European Urology study.
What Are the Kidneys?
Part of the urinary system, your two kidneys are fist- sized, bean-shaped organs, located just below the rib cage, one on each side of the spine.
They have a number of important functions, mainly filtering the blood to remove waste and excess water, resulting in the formation of urine, which is stored in the bladder and emptied from the body through the urethra.
The kidneys also:
-Balance the body's levels of electrolytes,
including sodium, potassium, and phosphate,
to maintain the body's balance of acids and
bases
-Produce hormones involved in regulating
blood pressure, producing red blood cells,
and maintaining bone strength
-Prevent the buildup of waste and fluid in the body
Development of Kidney Stones
Kidney stones develop when the concentration of normal kidney substances (especially calcium, oxalate, and phosphorus) increases substantially. This process — sometimes known as nephrolithiasis — can be due to various factors, including low fluid intake, diet, or medications such as diuretics and calcium-based antacids.
A number of issues can increase a person's risk of developing kidney stones, including:
-A family history of kidney stones
-Medical conditions that affect the levels of urinary substances
-Urinary tract blockage
-Digestive problems Recurrent urinary tract. infections
Types of Kidney Stones
There are four main types of kidney stones: calcium, uric acid, struvite, and cystine stones. Calcium stones, of which there are two forms — calcium oxalate and calcium phosphate — are the most common type of kidney stone.
In most cases, calcium oxalate stones form from high levels of calcium and oxalate in urine. But if there are high levels of urine calcium and the urine is alkaline (has a high pH), calcium phosphate stones may form instead. Uric acid stones develop from overly acidic (low pH) urine.
This can result from a diet high in purines, substances that are broken down to form uric acid and are found in high concentrations in animal protein. Struvite stones, sometimes called infection stones, are made of magnesium, ammonium, and phosphate, and typically form in alkaline urine.
They develop from upper urinary tract infections, including kidney infections, when bacteria produce urease, an enzyme that helps convert urea (a compound in urine) into ammonia and other products. Cystine stones result from a genetic disorder that causes cystine, an amino acid, to leak into the urine from the kidneys.
Thursday, June 23, 2016
BEYOND KSU : Ministry Of Education Convenes Meeting To Workout Modalities For Admission Screening
The Federal Ministry of Education will be convening a meeting which will have Vice-chancellors, admission officers and other stakeholders in attendance to discuss processes for the post- Unified Tertiary Matriculation Examination (UTME).
This was disclosed by the Permanent Secretary, Federal Ministry of Education, Dr Folashade Yemi-Esan, who equally stated that the meeting would hold next week.
According to the Permanent Secretary, the minister of education Mallam Admu Adamu has made pronouncement concerning the conduct of Post-UTME which should be complied with.
However, she stated that responsibility is now on the ministry to give institutions guidelines and modalities on how to go about what the honourable minister has said; hence the need for a meeting of all stake holders to work out modalities.
This was disclosed by the Permanent Secretary, Federal Ministry of Education, Dr Folashade Yemi-Esan, who equally stated that the meeting would hold next week.
According to the Permanent Secretary, the minister of education Mallam Admu Adamu has made pronouncement concerning the conduct of Post-UTME which should be complied with.
However, she stated that responsibility is now on the ministry to give institutions guidelines and modalities on how to go about what the honourable minister has said; hence the need for a meeting of all stake holders to work out modalities.
Wednesday, June 22, 2016
BEYOND KSU : IMSU ASUU Suspends Strike, Resumption Of Academic Activities Announced
The Academic Staff Union of Universities (ASUU), Imo State University chapter, today
suspended its 3 months strike action.
This development is the aftermath
of the meeting held today by the union.
The chairman of the union called on all the members as well as the students to resume academic activities.
Sequel to this, academic activities are expected to resume fully on Monday June 27th, 2016.
PAAU,please follow suit !!
suspended its 3 months strike action.
This development is the aftermath
of the meeting held today by the union.
The chairman of the union called on all the members as well as the students to resume academic activities.
Sequel to this, academic activities are expected to resume fully on Monday June 27th, 2016.
PAAU,please follow suit !!
BEYOND KSU : How I Escaped From Being Kidnapped – UNILAG Student
A 100-Level female student of the University of Lagos (UNILAG) has narrated how she escaped from being kidnapped by two men.
The student said it all happened on her way home from the Yaba market in Lagos when the unknown men ordered her to get into their Sport Utility Vehicle (SUV).
She narrated her story to a popular daily:
“I was about to cross at the Yaba Roundabout, beside the Cathedral Church, to board a bus to Ikeja when a silver colour SUV parked beside me. There were two guys in the car and one of them said, ‘how are you? Enter the car.’ I was shocked at the statement because I had never met them before.
”I continued walking and tried to cross the road but they blocked me with the car; then I became scared. I was finally able to cross and I boarded an Ikeja-bound bus and took a seat. Before I knew it, both men got out of their SUV and walked to the bus I was in. They were both putting on Army caps. They told the bus driver that the bus would not move until I came down and talked to them.
”They claimed that they knew me, which was untrue. I told them I would not get off the bus and talk to them because I didn’t know who they were but they insisted and it resulted in an argument involving me, the soldiers, passengers and other bus drivers.
“The bus drivers later said I should get off the bus, saying they didn’t want any trouble, that I had probably dated one of the guys. This went on for a while until the soldiers and drivers went to the back of their SUV and continued the argument.
“When I noticed the soldiers’ attention was not on me anymore, I came down from the bus and ran to board a UNILAG campus shuttle bus, hoping that would save me from them, but when I looked back while in the shuttle, I saw their car following the bus.
“They followed the bus down to the UNILAG gate in Akoka. I alighted at the school gate and ran to the security gate. Their SUV followed me and parked close to the school gate, so I started shouting and crying, ‘They want to kidnap me.’ After a few minutes, they drove off. I had to call some of my male friends who followed me home.
“I was so scared because I don’t know what those guys would have done to me, if I had not run to the campus shuttle that took me to school,” she added.
The student said it all happened on her way home from the Yaba market in Lagos when the unknown men ordered her to get into their Sport Utility Vehicle (SUV).
She narrated her story to a popular daily:
“I was about to cross at the Yaba Roundabout, beside the Cathedral Church, to board a bus to Ikeja when a silver colour SUV parked beside me. There were two guys in the car and one of them said, ‘how are you? Enter the car.’ I was shocked at the statement because I had never met them before.
”I continued walking and tried to cross the road but they blocked me with the car; then I became scared. I was finally able to cross and I boarded an Ikeja-bound bus and took a seat. Before I knew it, both men got out of their SUV and walked to the bus I was in. They were both putting on Army caps. They told the bus driver that the bus would not move until I came down and talked to them.
”They claimed that they knew me, which was untrue. I told them I would not get off the bus and talk to them because I didn’t know who they were but they insisted and it resulted in an argument involving me, the soldiers, passengers and other bus drivers.
“The bus drivers later said I should get off the bus, saying they didn’t want any trouble, that I had probably dated one of the guys. This went on for a while until the soldiers and drivers went to the back of their SUV and continued the argument.
“When I noticed the soldiers’ attention was not on me anymore, I came down from the bus and ran to board a UNILAG campus shuttle bus, hoping that would save me from them, but when I looked back while in the shuttle, I saw their car following the bus.
“They followed the bus down to the UNILAG gate in Akoka. I alighted at the school gate and ran to the security gate. Their SUV followed me and parked close to the school gate, so I started shouting and crying, ‘They want to kidnap me.’ After a few minutes, they drove off. I had to call some of my male friends who followed me home.
“I was so scared because I don’t know what those guys would have done to me, if I had not run to the campus shuttle that took me to school,” she added.
BEYOND KSU : THUGS DUSRUPT PROTEST BY N.U.T(LOKOJA BRANCH)
Reports:
"Gangs of thugs, believed to be All Progressives Congress, APC members, loyal to the governor of Kogi State, Yahaya Bello today, violently disrupted protests by Lokoja branch of the Nigerian Union of Teachers, NUT, who poured into streets to register their anger against the state government’s failure to pay their five months salaries.
The thugs armed with dangerous weapons including machete and horsewhips swooped on the protesting teachers at the front of Lokoja LG secretariat, within the vicinity of the State APC secretariat, and inflicted serious injuries on some of them.
The hoodlums, according to their leaders, had described the action of the teachers as rebellion against Bello’s government.
The teachers, who were led by officials of Lokoja local government branch of the NUT had earlier in the morning gathered at the Lokoja LGA secretariat, where they commenced the protest that was designed to take them through major roads including Maigari palace, Kabawa Road and Township Stadium Road, to terminate at the gates of Government House."
"Gangs of thugs, believed to be All Progressives Congress, APC members, loyal to the governor of Kogi State, Yahaya Bello today, violently disrupted protests by Lokoja branch of the Nigerian Union of Teachers, NUT, who poured into streets to register their anger against the state government’s failure to pay their five months salaries.
The thugs armed with dangerous weapons including machete and horsewhips swooped on the protesting teachers at the front of Lokoja LG secretariat, within the vicinity of the State APC secretariat, and inflicted serious injuries on some of them.
The hoodlums, according to their leaders, had described the action of the teachers as rebellion against Bello’s government.
The teachers, who were led by officials of Lokoja local government branch of the NUT had earlier in the morning gathered at the Lokoja LGA secretariat, where they commenced the protest that was designed to take them through major roads including Maigari palace, Kabawa Road and Township Stadium Road, to terminate at the gates of Government House."
V.C APPEALS TO DEANS,HODs AHEAD OF ASUU(KSU CHAPTER) CONGRESS TOMORROW
We have gotten confirmed reports that their will indeed be a congress(ASUU KSU CHAPTER) tomorrow 23rd of June 2016 around 10 AM in the morning,Agenda: letter on no pay no work from d government to be discussed.
The reports further stated that the meeting between the V.C and the deans of of various faculty today was positive.
The report stated that The VC held a meeting with the HOD's,and directors of the university today,and appealed to the lecturers to accept the four months paid salary.
Keep tabs with KSU TODAY for further updates on the outcome,reactions and analysis of the congress.
J.L.O
The reports further stated that the meeting between the V.C and the deans of of various faculty today was positive.
The report stated that The VC held a meeting with the HOD's,and directors of the university today,and appealed to the lecturers to accept the four months paid salary.
Keep tabs with KSU TODAY for further updates on the outcome,reactions and analysis of the congress.
J.L.O
READ - AN OPEN LETTER TO ASUU KSU CHAPTER AND HIS EXCELLENCY GOV YAHAYA BELLO
I got this from Idah Abubakar Rex on the KSU facebook forum,read below :
"I am a student of Kogi state university ( KSU) addressing this
letter to all concerned ASUU(KSU CHAPTER) members and
to his Excellency Gov. Yahaya Bello
Greetings to all ASUU members who are jointly fighting a
fight for a positive outcome which in turn is indeed causing
a lot of mental, academic and moral set back in the lives of
every students of this prestigious citadel of learning (KSU)
It is not out of point that you (ASUU) are fighting for your
entitlements of five months salaries the Kogi State
Government is owing you.
However, if what we the students are hearing that His
Excellency, Gov Yahaya Bello offered to pay you a four
months salary at a stretch and you still refused putting
things into considerations is true, Then you(ASUU) are
leaving us with no other conclusion but to say that ASUU is
no longer a neutral body but a pure political machinery set
out to destroy the reign of this present state government
administration.
The questions I want to ask are these..
1.Is it because His Excellency is not an igala man by tribe?
Since majority of the governing bodies of ASUU are Igalas?
2.Has his Excellency Yahaya Bello been the one owing you
for these months of unpaid salaries?
3 .Why didn't you (ASUU) fight former Gov WADA down to
the finish?
4. Is ASUU being fair enough?
If only ASUU can be more sincere to itself, then I see no
reason why this strike should last longer than it is now..
To Mr Governor on the other hand, if you truly value the
educational welfare of Kogi state youths, then I expect you
to use your position well and wisely.
I know this letter will go viral. And I hope it reaches the
appropriate quarters. God bless you all..
Signed Comr James Adamu"
Does he have a point ?? Congress tomorrow people !!!
"I am a student of Kogi state university ( KSU) addressing this
letter to all concerned ASUU(KSU CHAPTER) members and
to his Excellency Gov. Yahaya Bello
Greetings to all ASUU members who are jointly fighting a
fight for a positive outcome which in turn is indeed causing
a lot of mental, academic and moral set back in the lives of
every students of this prestigious citadel of learning (KSU)
It is not out of point that you (ASUU) are fighting for your
entitlements of five months salaries the Kogi State
Government is owing you.
However, if what we the students are hearing that His
Excellency, Gov Yahaya Bello offered to pay you a four
months salary at a stretch and you still refused putting
things into considerations is true, Then you(ASUU) are
leaving us with no other conclusion but to say that ASUU is
no longer a neutral body but a pure political machinery set
out to destroy the reign of this present state government
administration.
The questions I want to ask are these..
1.Is it because His Excellency is not an igala man by tribe?
Since majority of the governing bodies of ASUU are Igalas?
2.Has his Excellency Yahaya Bello been the one owing you
for these months of unpaid salaries?
3 .Why didn't you (ASUU) fight former Gov WADA down to
the finish?
4. Is ASUU being fair enough?
If only ASUU can be more sincere to itself, then I see no
reason why this strike should last longer than it is now..
To Mr Governor on the other hand, if you truly value the
educational welfare of Kogi state youths, then I expect you
to use your position well and wisely.
I know this letter will go viral. And I hope it reaches the
appropriate quarters. God bless you all..
Signed Comr James Adamu"
Does he have a point ?? Congress tomorrow people !!!
Sex and Relationship : 10 Signs You Are Dating A Great Guy Who You Should Never Let Go
Women all around the world agree that being in a relationship can bring a lot of delight and excitement into your life. There are many fish in the sea and the options are endless. For those ladies already in a relationship, you may wonder every once in a while whether you made the right choice by being with your significant other. What if there were some things you’ve neglected to consider? Is it time to rethink your options? To put your mind at ease, here are a few signs that you are in fact dating a great guy who you should never let go.
1. He loves you for your dorky, awkward self
Not all girls can have as much confidence and grace as Marilyn Monroe. You may have an awkward laugh, or a weird way of walking. Maybe you stutter, tell bad jokes and drool in your sleep. Maybe you aren’t very comfortable around his friends and family, but at the end of every day he still finds you adorable. It’s the best feeling knowing that you don’t have to pretend you’re someone you’re not.
2. He doesn’t run for the hills during your period
Some situations can’t be fixed by anyone, not even by your number one man. Let’s use your time of the month as an example. He doesn’t know what it’s like, and a large percentage of women suffer mood swings and hormonal fluctuations that can be terrifying and confusing. He can’t be expected to know exactly what to say, however he will sit you down, wrap a blanket around you and give you a massage. What more could you ask for?
3. He’s more real than men from the movies
If he has ever tried surprising you with a song or other romantic gesture, more often than not it has ended up more embarrassing than romantic. However the gestures are flattering and prove to be topics of conversation for the rest of your relationship. Let’s face it, perfect guys don’t exist, so the fact that this imperfect guy can make you happy is an indicator that you’re probably with the right guy.
4. He never lets you go to bed angry or upset
All couples fight – it’s a given. Every relationship has its low points and its high points. In whatever case, it is great to have a man who makes sure you two don’t dwell on unnecessary arguments. There is nothing worse than waking up in the morning knowing that you had that fight last night and are supposed to be avoiding each other and exchanging glares the next morning. If he takes the extra effort to make sure you don’t fall asleep without making up, then you know he’s a keeper.
5. He isn’t too scared of your dad’s shotgun
Many men cringe at the thought of meeting your parents, especially if they’re the scary type. When your significant other is actually enthusiastic about meeting your folks and incorporating himself into your family, then this is a sign that you’ve picked a good one. A good boyfriend will never try to isolate you from your family, so be sure you look out for this.
6. He is the only person you need to have a good
time
Whether you’re watching a movie, eating dinner, playing video games or just spending the whole day in bed talking about everything, he is the only person you need to have a memorable moment. Spending time with other people is great, but sometimes there’s nothing you love more than being able to spend some quality time alone with him. Your lives together will never be dull.
7. He doesn’t burn toast
Enough said. Maybe all he knows how to do is flip a pancake or not burn an omelet – on the other hand he might be a better cook than you. Either way, there is nothing more attractive than a guy who knows his way around the kitchen. While you still need to spend a few hours laboring in the kitchen, it’s good to know that he’s willing to put in as much effort as you.
8. He doesn’t doubt you, and doesn’t give you
any reason to doubt him
Trust is the most important part of a functional relationship, and it is vital that both of you are putting in an equal amount of effort. If you can go out late on a Friday night without him hounding you with questions the morning after about where you were, what you did and who you were with, then you know you’ve established a good trust relationship. At the same time, he doesn’t give you any reason to question who he texts and why he hasn’t called when he said he would. Whatever excuse or apology he gives you is legitimate. This is a man you should keep around for as long as possible.
9. He has creative ways to let you know he loves
you
It’s extremely easy to say those three little words – and after a long relationship it becomes something you say almost automatically, even if you don’t mean it. At this stage, if your boyfriend is finding more creative ways to let you know he cares, then this is the sign of a keeper. Maybe he’s started leaving cute notes for you to find when you wake up in the morning. Maybe he’s started singing to you. Maybe he’s taking you on picnics. Whatever he does, it should mean the world to you.
10. He doesn’t have multiple personalities
He doesn’t have to act ‘cool’ in front of his friends or your friends. He doesn’t pretend to be anything to impress your parents. He doesn’t have to act any differently around you to make you like him better. He’s the same person all the time— honest and consistent. You never have to worry whether he’ll act weird around particular people, and you know that the man your fell in love with such a long time ago will still be the same man in fifty years. This is a sign that you should never ever let him go.
1. He loves you for your dorky, awkward self
Not all girls can have as much confidence and grace as Marilyn Monroe. You may have an awkward laugh, or a weird way of walking. Maybe you stutter, tell bad jokes and drool in your sleep. Maybe you aren’t very comfortable around his friends and family, but at the end of every day he still finds you adorable. It’s the best feeling knowing that you don’t have to pretend you’re someone you’re not.
2. He doesn’t run for the hills during your period
Some situations can’t be fixed by anyone, not even by your number one man. Let’s use your time of the month as an example. He doesn’t know what it’s like, and a large percentage of women suffer mood swings and hormonal fluctuations that can be terrifying and confusing. He can’t be expected to know exactly what to say, however he will sit you down, wrap a blanket around you and give you a massage. What more could you ask for?
3. He’s more real than men from the movies
If he has ever tried surprising you with a song or other romantic gesture, more often than not it has ended up more embarrassing than romantic. However the gestures are flattering and prove to be topics of conversation for the rest of your relationship. Let’s face it, perfect guys don’t exist, so the fact that this imperfect guy can make you happy is an indicator that you’re probably with the right guy.
4. He never lets you go to bed angry or upset
All couples fight – it’s a given. Every relationship has its low points and its high points. In whatever case, it is great to have a man who makes sure you two don’t dwell on unnecessary arguments. There is nothing worse than waking up in the morning knowing that you had that fight last night and are supposed to be avoiding each other and exchanging glares the next morning. If he takes the extra effort to make sure you don’t fall asleep without making up, then you know he’s a keeper.
5. He isn’t too scared of your dad’s shotgun
Many men cringe at the thought of meeting your parents, especially if they’re the scary type. When your significant other is actually enthusiastic about meeting your folks and incorporating himself into your family, then this is a sign that you’ve picked a good one. A good boyfriend will never try to isolate you from your family, so be sure you look out for this.
6. He is the only person you need to have a good
time
Whether you’re watching a movie, eating dinner, playing video games or just spending the whole day in bed talking about everything, he is the only person you need to have a memorable moment. Spending time with other people is great, but sometimes there’s nothing you love more than being able to spend some quality time alone with him. Your lives together will never be dull.
7. He doesn’t burn toast
Enough said. Maybe all he knows how to do is flip a pancake or not burn an omelet – on the other hand he might be a better cook than you. Either way, there is nothing more attractive than a guy who knows his way around the kitchen. While you still need to spend a few hours laboring in the kitchen, it’s good to know that he’s willing to put in as much effort as you.
8. He doesn’t doubt you, and doesn’t give you
any reason to doubt him
Trust is the most important part of a functional relationship, and it is vital that both of you are putting in an equal amount of effort. If you can go out late on a Friday night without him hounding you with questions the morning after about where you were, what you did and who you were with, then you know you’ve established a good trust relationship. At the same time, he doesn’t give you any reason to question who he texts and why he hasn’t called when he said he would. Whatever excuse or apology he gives you is legitimate. This is a man you should keep around for as long as possible.
9. He has creative ways to let you know he loves
you
It’s extremely easy to say those three little words – and after a long relationship it becomes something you say almost automatically, even if you don’t mean it. At this stage, if your boyfriend is finding more creative ways to let you know he cares, then this is the sign of a keeper. Maybe he’s started leaving cute notes for you to find when you wake up in the morning. Maybe he’s started singing to you. Maybe he’s taking you on picnics. Whatever he does, it should mean the world to you.
10. He doesn’t have multiple personalities
He doesn’t have to act ‘cool’ in front of his friends or your friends. He doesn’t pretend to be anything to impress your parents. He doesn’t have to act any differently around you to make you like him better. He’s the same person all the time— honest and consistent. You never have to worry whether he’ll act weird around particular people, and you know that the man your fell in love with such a long time ago will still be the same man in fifty years. This is a sign that you should never ever let him go.
Sex and Relationships : 8 Signs That Your Current Relationship Has No Future
Are you confused about the direction of your relationship?
Relationships are often happy at the beginning, but over time
they can become negative without you realizing. All
relationships require effort and hard work, and without these
things you may notice that you feel unhappy and under-
appreciated.
Check out 8 telltale signs that your relationship may not last.
1. Your partner can’t accept you for who you are
Everyone has positive and negative traits, and a good partner
will accept all of your flaws. Your partner doesn’t have to
enjoy watching The Real Housewives with you, but they
should accept that you enjoy it and leave you to it without
judgment. If your partner doesn’t like more important things
like the way you dress or your career, it is time for you to
leave. Being unable to accept one another for who you are is
one of the biggest indicators that the relationship won’t work
out.
2. You can’t accept your partner for who they are
Accepting each other works both ways. If your partner loves you for who you are then you should be able to offer the same to your partner. Ask yourself this; if there are things your partner does that you hate or cannot come to terms with, why are you with them?
3. You struggle to handle each other during the
hard times
Relationships come with intimacy, happiness and laughter, but they also come with stress, bad moods and hardship. Of course you will love your partner when they are happy and relaxed, but do you feel the same way about them when they are irritated? In a relationship you should support each other during hard times, not push each other away.
4. Your needs are not being met by your partner
Your partner cannot do everything for you; for instance, it is demanding and clingy to insist they talk to you every hour of the day. However it is important that they can meet your needs in the relationship department. They should be able to cheer you up after a tough day, and they should be able to provide you with love and support. If they can’t give you these things the relationship will deteriorate.
5. You are not at the same place mentally
If you are ready to get married and settle down and your partner wants to travel alone for a few years, you may start to encounter problems. If you realize your relationship is becoming serious, it is useful to sit down and talk about both of your plans for the future. It isn’t anyone’s fault if you have different interests, but you both deserve to know if you’re not in the same boat.
6. You put work into the relationship but your
partner does not
Relationships are what you put into them. Both partners need to give and take, and sometimes one partner may give more or take more. This can cause a problem as you should both be putting an equal amount of effort into the relationship. If one of you doesn’t care enough to meet the other halfway, it could be a sign that the relationship has become unhealthy and negative.
7. You struggle to trust each other
Both you and your partner should trust each other implicitly. If your partner has given you a reason to distrust them, you can either forgive them and try toe and Facebook Messages forge a future or move on. The worst decision you can make is choosing to stay when you don’t trust them. If you find yourself checking your partner’s phone when they leave the room, breaking up and moving on may be the best option for both of you.
8. You don’t see long-term potential
A relationship requires a lot of time and effort, so it is important to make sure you are putting in work for something that could actually last. You don’t have to want to marry your partner, but you should be able to envision a happy future together. If you don’t see a future together at all it may be time for you to move on.
LIFEHACK.ORG
Relationships are often happy at the beginning, but over time
they can become negative without you realizing. All
relationships require effort and hard work, and without these
things you may notice that you feel unhappy and under-
appreciated.
Check out 8 telltale signs that your relationship may not last.
1. Your partner can’t accept you for who you are
Everyone has positive and negative traits, and a good partner
will accept all of your flaws. Your partner doesn’t have to
enjoy watching The Real Housewives with you, but they
should accept that you enjoy it and leave you to it without
judgment. If your partner doesn’t like more important things
like the way you dress or your career, it is time for you to
leave. Being unable to accept one another for who you are is
one of the biggest indicators that the relationship won’t work
out.
2. You can’t accept your partner for who they are
Accepting each other works both ways. If your partner loves you for who you are then you should be able to offer the same to your partner. Ask yourself this; if there are things your partner does that you hate or cannot come to terms with, why are you with them?
3. You struggle to handle each other during the
hard times
Relationships come with intimacy, happiness and laughter, but they also come with stress, bad moods and hardship. Of course you will love your partner when they are happy and relaxed, but do you feel the same way about them when they are irritated? In a relationship you should support each other during hard times, not push each other away.
4. Your needs are not being met by your partner
Your partner cannot do everything for you; for instance, it is demanding and clingy to insist they talk to you every hour of the day. However it is important that they can meet your needs in the relationship department. They should be able to cheer you up after a tough day, and they should be able to provide you with love and support. If they can’t give you these things the relationship will deteriorate.
5. You are not at the same place mentally
If you are ready to get married and settle down and your partner wants to travel alone for a few years, you may start to encounter problems. If you realize your relationship is becoming serious, it is useful to sit down and talk about both of your plans for the future. It isn’t anyone’s fault if you have different interests, but you both deserve to know if you’re not in the same boat.
6. You put work into the relationship but your
partner does not
Relationships are what you put into them. Both partners need to give and take, and sometimes one partner may give more or take more. This can cause a problem as you should both be putting an equal amount of effort into the relationship. If one of you doesn’t care enough to meet the other halfway, it could be a sign that the relationship has become unhealthy and negative.
7. You struggle to trust each other
Both you and your partner should trust each other implicitly. If your partner has given you a reason to distrust them, you can either forgive them and try toe and Facebook Messages forge a future or move on. The worst decision you can make is choosing to stay when you don’t trust them. If you find yourself checking your partner’s phone when they leave the room, breaking up and moving on may be the best option for both of you.
8. You don’t see long-term potential
A relationship requires a lot of time and effort, so it is important to make sure you are putting in work for something that could actually last. You don’t have to want to marry your partner, but you should be able to envision a happy future together. If you don’t see a future together at all it may be time for you to move on.
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Tuesday, June 21, 2016
8 Things Happy And Successful People Ignore
Everyone wants to be successful and happy these
days, but there are so many things that prevent us
from being happy. The truth is, we are the only ones
that can decide whether to live a happy life or spend
the life doing things that make us unhappy. You will
never become successful if you don’t learn how to be
happy. It’s hard to learn to ignore negativity,
stereotypes, and naysayers, but it’s extremely
important. Don’t be afraid to go against the grain to
make a difference by doing things your own way. Here
are a few things you should ignore if you want to be a
happy and successful person.
1. The past
You can’t change your past, so there’s no sense in
dwelling on it. Forget all your old troubles and
mistakes. What’s done is done and you can’t change it,
no matter how hard you try. In fact, our mistakes help
us become stronger and wiser. We learn from them
and we learn our weaknesses. Even the most stressful
and tragic situations eventually teach you vital lessons
that you never thought you’re going to learn. Just
because you are not a successful person today doesn’t
mean you will not be the one someday. You will be
happy and successful – maybe not right now, but
eventually. Just don’t give up and don’t let your past
ruin your present.
2. The things they can’t control
Happy and successful people never force anything.
They don’t hold themselves down with things they
can’t control. Successful people never talk about the
problem, they think about the solution. So if you have
some problems, start thinking about the solutions. If
you can’t change your current situation, let it be.
Remember, changes happen for a reason. If it’s meant
to be, it will be.
3. Other people’s opinions
It’s great to listen to people around you, but it doesn’t
mean you should act up to their opinions. If you spend
too much time thinking of everyone else’s perception
of you and if you pay attention to everyone else’s
judgment, you will eventually forget who you truly are.
You know who you are, so don’t let the judgments of
other people affect your life. Impress and inspire
people around you and show them how happy and
successful you are.
4. Impatient thoughts
Joyce Meyer once said, “Patience is not the ability to
wait but the ability to keep a good attitude while
waiting.” Patience allows you to stay focused,
confidently taking one small step at a time. Every step
you take, no matter how small, is a huge progress.
Whether you’re working on getting a promotion,
improving your health, or learning a new language,
don’t expect instant results. Every change, big and
small, takes patience and time. Ignore those impatient
thoughts, focus on your goals, stay positive and you
will definitely see your progress. Trust me, I know how
it’s frustrating when the results don’t appear as fast as
you’d hoped. But if you put in the work and have a
little patience, you will achieve any goal, I promise!
5. Doubts
Successful people always believe in their capacity to
succeed. They ignore all nagging doubts and keep a
positive attitude no matter how bad things get. Even if
you made many mistakes, you should still believe in
yourself and your strength. Believe that your career is
worth the efforts. Believe that people can be
intelligent and foolish, generous and selfish, happy
and stressed all at once. Believe that you are
successful even if you don’t earn millions. Believe in
your intuition when you should choose between
something. Believe that your life is happy and it will
bring you joy again and again. Believe in magic when it
seems like there’s no way out of the situation you are
in. Remember, belief is always better than doubt.
6. Inessential tasks
Successful people know when and how to say no. You
are not superhuman – you can’t do everything and you
can’t help everyone. You need to focus on your goals.
Stop trying to do too much things at once. If you never
say no, you will stress yourself out since you might fail
to do everything at once. Don’t be afraid to say no
more often. Sometimes we spend a lot of time on
what is urgent and less time on what is important. Try
to focus on more important things and it will certainly
help you achieve success.
7. Everyday frustrations
Bad days are just bad days. They come and they go.
Although you might feel overly stressed, try to ignore
them. It’s much easier to enjoy your life when you stay
positive even if you have a bad day. Unfortunately, we
can’t avoid everyday frustrations. We fall, we rise, we
make mistakes, we learn, and we live. We are all
humans, we can’t be perfect. Practice gratitude daily
and it will help you cope with the hard times. Realize
that life is beautiful. Sometimes there’s sadness, but
there are also plenty of beautiful things. Learn to
ignore everyday frustrations even when it hurts, and
you will see how happy and successful you are.
8. Fears
Often we don’t take risks because of fear of failing,
judgment, or rejection. This is one of the main reasons
why so many people are not successful these days.
Successful people overcome their fears and they often
take risks. In fact, almost everything in life is a risk,
including just being alive. If you don’t take risks, you
won’t grow and thrive and you won’t know what you
are capable of. When you feel fear, doubt, frustration,
or anxiety, know that you can fight it. Just focus on the
possibilities, on the goodness and on your goals and
you will feel much better in no time.
days, but there are so many things that prevent us
from being happy. The truth is, we are the only ones
that can decide whether to live a happy life or spend
the life doing things that make us unhappy. You will
never become successful if you don’t learn how to be
happy. It’s hard to learn to ignore negativity,
stereotypes, and naysayers, but it’s extremely
important. Don’t be afraid to go against the grain to
make a difference by doing things your own way. Here
are a few things you should ignore if you want to be a
happy and successful person.
1. The past
You can’t change your past, so there’s no sense in
dwelling on it. Forget all your old troubles and
mistakes. What’s done is done and you can’t change it,
no matter how hard you try. In fact, our mistakes help
us become stronger and wiser. We learn from them
and we learn our weaknesses. Even the most stressful
and tragic situations eventually teach you vital lessons
that you never thought you’re going to learn. Just
because you are not a successful person today doesn’t
mean you will not be the one someday. You will be
happy and successful – maybe not right now, but
eventually. Just don’t give up and don’t let your past
ruin your present.
2. The things they can’t control
Happy and successful people never force anything.
They don’t hold themselves down with things they
can’t control. Successful people never talk about the
problem, they think about the solution. So if you have
some problems, start thinking about the solutions. If
you can’t change your current situation, let it be.
Remember, changes happen for a reason. If it’s meant
to be, it will be.
3. Other people’s opinions
It’s great to listen to people around you, but it doesn’t
mean you should act up to their opinions. If you spend
too much time thinking of everyone else’s perception
of you and if you pay attention to everyone else’s
judgment, you will eventually forget who you truly are.
You know who you are, so don’t let the judgments of
other people affect your life. Impress and inspire
people around you and show them how happy and
successful you are.
4. Impatient thoughts
Joyce Meyer once said, “Patience is not the ability to
wait but the ability to keep a good attitude while
waiting.” Patience allows you to stay focused,
confidently taking one small step at a time. Every step
you take, no matter how small, is a huge progress.
Whether you’re working on getting a promotion,
improving your health, or learning a new language,
don’t expect instant results. Every change, big and
small, takes patience and time. Ignore those impatient
thoughts, focus on your goals, stay positive and you
will definitely see your progress. Trust me, I know how
it’s frustrating when the results don’t appear as fast as
you’d hoped. But if you put in the work and have a
little patience, you will achieve any goal, I promise!
5. Doubts
Successful people always believe in their capacity to
succeed. They ignore all nagging doubts and keep a
positive attitude no matter how bad things get. Even if
you made many mistakes, you should still believe in
yourself and your strength. Believe that your career is
worth the efforts. Believe that people can be
intelligent and foolish, generous and selfish, happy
and stressed all at once. Believe that you are
successful even if you don’t earn millions. Believe in
your intuition when you should choose between
something. Believe that your life is happy and it will
bring you joy again and again. Believe in magic when it
seems like there’s no way out of the situation you are
in. Remember, belief is always better than doubt.
6. Inessential tasks
Successful people know when and how to say no. You
are not superhuman – you can’t do everything and you
can’t help everyone. You need to focus on your goals.
Stop trying to do too much things at once. If you never
say no, you will stress yourself out since you might fail
to do everything at once. Don’t be afraid to say no
more often. Sometimes we spend a lot of time on
what is urgent and less time on what is important. Try
to focus on more important things and it will certainly
help you achieve success.
7. Everyday frustrations
Bad days are just bad days. They come and they go.
Although you might feel overly stressed, try to ignore
them. It’s much easier to enjoy your life when you stay
positive even if you have a bad day. Unfortunately, we
can’t avoid everyday frustrations. We fall, we rise, we
make mistakes, we learn, and we live. We are all
humans, we can’t be perfect. Practice gratitude daily
and it will help you cope with the hard times. Realize
that life is beautiful. Sometimes there’s sadness, but
there are also plenty of beautiful things. Learn to
ignore everyday frustrations even when it hurts, and
you will see how happy and successful you are.
8. Fears
Often we don’t take risks because of fear of failing,
judgment, or rejection. This is one of the main reasons
why so many people are not successful these days.
Successful people overcome their fears and they often
take risks. In fact, almost everything in life is a risk,
including just being alive. If you don’t take risks, you
won’t grow and thrive and you won’t know what you
are capable of. When you feel fear, doubt, frustration,
or anxiety, know that you can fight it. Just focus on the
possibilities, on the goodness and on your goals and
you will feel much better in no time.
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