How You Become Unattractive And You’re Not Aware of It

Everyone strives to be a great person, kind, caring, and compassionate. But for some people, that’s not always the case. There are many behaviors or ‘bad habits’ that people have that make them seem unattractive, annoying, or someone that no one wants to be around with. A few of these harmful characteristics are offered for you below, and if you happen to realize that you embody any of them – quit! You might find your circle of friends grow once you do.

1. You are Self-Absorbed

Many people do this without realizing it. You focus solely on yourself, talk only about yourself, and often don’t care what others around you have to say. You think you’re the only one who matters. If this is you, it’s time to change. No one wants to be a friend with someone who only cares about themselves.

2. You Focus on Outer Beauty, Ignoring What’s Inside

Surprisingly, true beauty comes from within your heart, body, and soul. Your physical appearance isn’t what should matter, but people with unattractive behaviors think that outer beauty is all that matters. Take a look in the mirror – deep within yourself – and you might see what lies beneath. An ugly person. Unless you change your way of thinking.

3. You are Always in Competition

Are you the person who has to be better than everyone else, see more, do more? If so, you’re an unattractive person. You should be more caring towards your friends, and let them have their moment. If they overcame their fear of heights and climbed 10 feet in the air, don’t say, “That’s all? I’ve climbed 30 feet!” Instead say, “Wow! That’s awesome. I’m really proud of you.”

4. You View Your Friends as Enemies

People who are seen as unattractive are often in fights with their friends. Instead of banning together and truly being able to care for others, you’re always turning your back, and stabbing them in theirs. Your friends are not your enemies.

5. You Question Your Importance to Others

You are definitely an unattractive person when you constantly question why others don’t see you as important as you think they should. For instance, your two friends went somewhere without you – it doesn’t matter to them – but to you it does. Get over it. They’re still your friend, and their lives don’t stop when you’re not around.

6. You are the Boss

In a group of friends, everyone should be on an equal playing field. If you’re the one always making the decisions, constantly needing to be in charge, or trying to control what others are doing, you’re acting in an unattractive way.

7. You are Dishonest

When it comes to being a great friend, or someone who others want to be around, you need to be honest. Many people who partake in ugly behaviors are often dishonest, lying about everything, inquiring about every question asked about them, and how they truly feel about different things. Yes, honesty is the best policy.

8. You are Rude

If you’re the person that’s frequently impolite, offensive, or embarrassing your friends with your rude comments in public – quit. You’re not someone people want to be around. There are going to be times when you don’t agree with someone, or see something you didn’t want to see, but there’s no point in making a scene, because you’re making everyone look at your terrible behavior and they’re not seeing what you’re seeing.

9. You are Unreliable, Yet Dependent Upon Others

Are you there when your friends call for help? Or are you always busy when someone needs you? If you’re the person no one can count on, that’s an unattractive quality in friendships. Similarly, if you’re the one always calling for help from others, yet never offering yours when they need it, that’s another unattractive quality that no one wants in a friend.

10. You are Always Negative

Pessimism is not an attractive quality. If you’re constantly putting things down, or seeing situations in a negative light, try and change your attitude. Nobody wants to be friends with someone who’s constantly seeing the negative instead of the positive.

2016/2017 Direct Entry Registration has commenced

This is to inform all prospective 2016/2017 Direct Entry candidates who applied for admission into Kogi State University, Anyigba for the 2016/2017 Academic Session that Registration has commenced and scheduled to be closed on the Friday, 30th September, 2016 at midnight .

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NECO June/July SSCE Results For 2016 Released

It has been gathered that the National Examination Council, (NECO), has released the 2016 June/July Senior School Certificate Examination (SSCE) results.

According to Prof. Charles Uwakwe, Registrar of the Council, out of the 1,022,474 who sat for the examination, 88.51% of candidates obtained at least five credits including in Mathematics and English Language.

He further revealed that 905,011 (84.54 per cent) of candidates got 5 credits and above in English Language while 812,846 (80.16 percent) got 5 credits and above in Mathematics.

Ekiti State recorded the highest with 96.48 percent and Katsina State recording the least with 72.59 percent.

He however noted that 43,905 cases of malpractice were recorded, with 194 schools implicated in cases of mass cheating; adding that the results of candidates involved have been cancelled.

Candidates are advised to visit the official NECO website http://www.mynecoexams.com/results/ to check their results.                  

Reasons why dating the ‘Baddest’ in town is a bad idea

Normally, very few people would like to be in a relationship with a grouchy individual. Who wants to deal with the incessant moodiness and dour posture?

Most people would rather be with people who know how to have a good time –the baddest, coolest gang.

Regardless of how much spice fun-loving partners bring to relationships and life in general, sometimes they are not as awesome as they are cracked up to be.

These are five reasons why it isn’t always great to date the baddest partner in town:

·      If you are the kind of person who has a lot of drama going on in your life, what you really need is someone who helps keep the drama at level that is safe for both you and the people you interact with on a daily basis. As such, you need a partner who knows how to look at issues with some level of seriousness, at least 70% of the time. Fun-seekers may not be able to help sort out your life when you really need them to.

·      You could end up being the one making all the sound financial decisions in the relationship. What your partner may be interested in is going on one adventure after the other, which could grate on your nerves quite strongly.

·      At the beginning of the relationship, your partner’s lifestyle will be enthralling because a whole new world seems to have been opened up to you. With time however, you may not be able to keep up with their escapades and they may see that as a sign of your lack of interest in them, which may not be the case.

·      Fun-loving people can turn out to be loose talkers. Who knows how many of your intimate secrets will roll off your partner’s tongue when they have had a drink or two? And you probably cannot tell them how their actions hurt you, they might just dismiss it and say ‘it was only a joke, luv’

·      There is a bigger room for jealousy, that green-eyed monster, to rear its head. Your partner will have too many friends they hang out with late into the night; you may not have what it takes, emotionally, to dismiss every one of those friends as ‘just a mere friend’.

Common Signs that shows when A girl wants you

It’s not at all uncommon to hear men talk about how difficult – or impossible – it is to understand women. The same is true for what women say about men, of course, but this time the idea is to lend a hand to men who may be trying to determine if a particular women is interested in being more than just friends. There are subtle signals that women often use, even without realizing it, that might be an indication that she has more than just a passing interest in you. When you know what to watch for, it will be a lot easier to figure out whether or not there may be a future with her or not. Her are a few behaviors to watch for that are often a good indication that she wants to be more than friends.

#1 She touches you
If she seems like she’s taking advantage of opportunities to touch you during normal conversation, there’s a good chance she’s into you. It could be something as simple as gently touching your arm or shoulder when she’s laughing at something you say or when she’s telling you about something. It’s unlikely that a woman is going to be putting her hands on some dude that she does not have any interest in at all.

#2 First date appearance
If she’s someone you have spent a fair amount of time with before going on on a “real” date with, the way she fixes herself up for that first date could be a clue. If she’s usually a jeans-and-tee-shirt kind of gal and she shows up for your first date wearing a sexy dress, high heels and more make-up than usual, there’s a darn good chance she wants to make a good impression, and wants that date to be just the first of many.

#3 The copy cat
Again, here’s a situation where you’ll usually have to spend some time around her before you pick up on this because it may not be all that noticeable at first. If you’re the kind of guy who uses a certain word or phrase a lot, like “that’s sweet” and you begin to notice that she’s started to use it a lot as well, that could be one of those little signs that she’s got eyes for you. You can even test it out by adapting a new phrase or word that you overuse a bit and see if she follows suit.

#4 First conversation
A first conversation can tell you a great deal about how she feels about you. If it’s kind of awkward and brief, she just may not have any interest. She could also be super shy, but it should not be that hard to tell just by watching her body language. On the other hand, if she seems like she wants to keep talking and is asking you lots of questions about you, there’s an excellent chance that there is some interest there.

#5 Calls out of the blue
If she starts calling you a lot just to chat and not for any specific purpose, she may be hoping she can get more involved. She’ll tend to do this a lot when she’s bored and wants someone to talk to. If yours is the number she dials most often, you’ll probably have a good chance of getting something started with her if you want to.

#6 Changing opinions
Here’s a sign that’s nearly foolproof. If you have heard her say she doesn’t like something, or know that she doesn’t because one of her friends has told you and then, she suddenly likes it when you bring it up in coversation, that’s a major signal. For example, you may hear her talking to one of her friends and hear her say she dislikes Thai food but later when she hears you talk about going out for some Thai food she seems all interested and says she really likes it. That’s pretty much an open invitation to ask her out if you want to.

#7 Body language
These signs tend to be a little more subtle and less reliable than some other signs, but there is decent chance they could be sings that she likes you. She licks her lips, plays with her hair, or tilts her head slightly when she talks to you. These are the kinds of little signals that are best used when other signs that she’s interested in you are present, because by themselves, they may not mean all that much.

#8 Happy hour
If a woman sends you a drink, that’s about as close as she can get to standing up on a table and screaming for you to come talk to her because she things you’re hot. If you’re at all interested, you’d be a fool to ignore that invitation and you may as well just go home and get used to the idea of being by yourself all your life.

#9. Greetings by proxy
When a gal’s friend comes to you and says that her friend wanted her to say “hi” to you for her, that’s another pretty reliable signal that there’s more than just casual interest in play. She’s definitely not going to go out of her way to ask her friend to pass along a greeting like that if she has no interest in you at all. If she thinks you’re a loser, you’re never going to be on the receiving end of a greeting like that!

#10 Late night
If you are spending time with her and she never seems like she wants to be the one that says she needs to get home, she’s probably thinking she’d like to see your relationship turn into something more serious. If you find that you’re always the one that has to say you’re ready to call it a night before she does, she’s definitely enjoying your company a lot.

Seven ways to stop overeating

As humans, you will feel hungry and the need to satisfy that hunger will arise. In feeding yourself sometimes depending on how hungry you are, you may overeat.

But people do not overeat just because they are overly hungry a number of factors come to play. Pulse.com.gh has put together some tips that can help one stop overeating.

1.    Always eat breakfast

Make a conscious effort never to miss breakfast. Missing breakfast altogether can be likened to eating all the foods you should avoid in the morning. When you miss breakfast, you fail to energise your body for the day. This leads to overeating later in the day especially in the evening, which is not a good time for meals.

2.    Eat real food

It is encouraged that you eat proper, whole and unprocessed meals. That means substituting the processed meals for vegetables, fruits, whole grains, beans, nuts, seeds, olive oil, organic, range, or grass-fed animal products (poultry, lamb, beef, pork, eggs), and sea foods.

3.    Eat mindfully

Relax when you eat. This helps your gut’s nervous system to work properly. You will overeat when you eat quickly. Studies have shown that it takes your brain 20 minutes after you start eating to know it's full. This means that when you eat, you must eat at a slower pace to help your brain know when it is actually full.

4.    Control stress levels

You must learn to rest as a way of de-stressing. You can perform other activities to release stress when the need arises. A lot of issues get people stressed and most people have the tendency to overeat when they are stressed. You need to avoid being stressed in order to prevent overeating.

5.    Keep a Journal

Write down everything you eat. Don’t just write the name of the food, add how you feel after the meal. This helps you know which foods to eat often and which ones to reduce. This also helps in weight loss.

6.    Get sufficient sleep

Make sure you get enough sleep. Your sleep must be uninterrupted, quality and refreshing. This helps you reduce cravings and also normalises the fat-regulating hormones. One study found even a partial night’s sleep deprivation contributes to insulin resistance, paving the way for obesity and Type 2 diabetes.

7.    Exercise.

A lot of people know exercising helps one lose weight but few people know it also helps control your appetite so you don’t overeat. Exercising is in various forms. You can walk every day for 30 minutes, bike, dance, run, jump, play games or partake in any form of exercise that can help you

Tips for guys on how to be romantic

As a guy, you probably don’t feel the onus is on you to be romantic. Maybe you’ve don’t even think the girl wants you to be romantic.

After all, romance was something your grandparents did, right? And those days are long gone. In 2016, we do things differently.

Not quite. Despite the rise of instant-dating apps like Tinder, and despite what popular pickup artists might tell you, girls still want to be romanced by men the way their grandmother’s we’re romanced. It’s true. Indeed, romance can lift you out of the friend zone and into exactly where you want be. Romance can also help a simmering relationship reach boiling point.

If you’re not entirely sure about how to be romantic, let’s take a look at 10 tips for guys on how to romance her.

• Make A List

Girls love it when guys remember things, and they get really despondent when we don’t remember things. If you surprise her on your anniversary with a gift before she’s had the chance to scream “I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU FORGOT IT WAS OUR ANNIVERSARY OMG” you’re onto a winner.

It’s really romantic when you remember key dates and make plans for them. If you’re not the best at remembering dates (who is?) it’s a good idea to pen them in on a list. Make a note of her birthday, and your anniversary. Write down the date you shared your first kiss with her, as well as any other dates you know are special to her. And when the dates swing around, do something special for her. She’ll love it.

• Make A Toast To Her

She’s your lover.

She’s also your best friend.

She might even be your soul mate.

Eventually, she could be the mother to your children.

She’s always going to be there for you, through the good times and the bad times.

She won’t let you down.

She sounds amazing.

She is amazing.

So make a toast to her before your evening meal. Let her know you’re thankful that she’s in your life. Let her know she’s special and that she deserves this toast and many others.

“Here’s to you.”

• Show Her Affection

You might think that as a guy in a relationship, it’s the girl who should be affectionate. You just need sit back and enjoy it. After all, us guys don’t do affection, right? Men just aren’t born affectionate.

But girls want you to show affection. They want you to reach out for a hug first, to grab their hand in the street and spontaneously embrace them under the streetlights. It won’t emasculate you, I promise. Try it!

Read more: Dating Tips Don’t do any of these if you are 

• Make A Photo Album

You probably think that photo albums are dead in this, the age of the selfies. Most people think that photo albums are dead.

Your partner probably thinks they’re dead, too.

And this is why she’ll be knocked off her feet if you make a photo album that celebrates the memories you two have shared together. She won’t be able to believe it. She’ll be stunned, surprise, amazed – and more in love than ever.

Making a photo album is going to take up a bit of time and will demand some creativity on your part. But it’ll be totally worth it.

• Share Things With Them

Romance truly is dead if you can’t share important things with your partner. If you’d rather keep your likes, dislikes, worries and hopes to yourself, it doesn’t really say a lot for this relationship. Sure, it keeps you invulnerable, but it also keeps you at a distance.

Sharing things with your partner is romantic. Whether you’re sharing a gift of opening up about your day, you’re involving them in your life by bringing them closer to you.

• Help Her To Achieve Her Dreams

Your partner surely has dreams. But in what way are you helping her to achieve them?

Some men feel threatened by their partners’ dreams. They worry that their woman will be more successful than them and – worse still – that they’ll outgrow them.

It’s much more romantic, however, to encourage your partner to be the best she can be.

• Think Outside The Box

I went away on a business trip recently to DC and when I returned home, my partner asked if I’d brought her a gift.

“I haven’t,” I said sheepishly.

I felt bad. I explained that I hadn’t had much time and that I never think about buying gifts, not even for myself.

“I know,” she said.

She knew because she knows me inside out. I always think inside the box – never outside.

So I decided to start thinking outside the box. On my way home from work, I now sometimes stop off at the supermarket and buy her some flowers.

In the morning I sometimes surprise her with a cup of coffee in bed.

In the evening, I leave a chocolate love heart on her pillow before she joins me in bed.

All of these things are out of character for me – and this element of surprise is so romantic.

• Show Her She’s Important To You

I know how much you love a boys night out. But if you want to make a powerful romantic gesture every now and then, it’s a good idea to put the breaks on your night out with your buddies to see your partner instead.

Show her that she’s important to you. If she needs you, you’re always going to be there for her.

• Dress To Kill

Isn’t it funny how we get dressed up to the nines for when we have to meet total strangers, but let ourselves go around our partners? We walk around the house in frayed slacks, torn sweaters and socks with holes in. We look like a hobo, but we don’t mind because our partner loves us anyway.

This is not exactly romantic, guys. It’s time to change. It’s time to keep up appearances and dress to kill around your partner at all times.

This means shaving each day (or at least getting your beard just right). It means wearing clean clothes and binning any socks with holes in. It means wearing cologne and smelling nice.

• Pay Her Lots Of Attention

When you guys go out together, don’t spend half the night talking about work or what you and your best buddy are going to do at the weekend. Talk about her. Give her your full attention. Put your phone away and make her feel like she’s the centre of your universe.

Source: Beauty and tips.com

The impotance of defining your relationship

The title sounds like a broken old school record that keeps playing over and again. Yet, it is important to define your relationship.

If the labels change, or if you feel differently and need to redefine the relationship, go right ahead and redefine it. If you let unanswered questions hang around your relationship and uncertainties fester, it is only a recipe for heartbreak.

What Are We?

This is one of the most difficult things to ask in a growing friendship. There is usually the hilarious “we are nothing but pencil in the hands of the creator” response; which is not funny at all if you are the enquirer. Even though there is a 50-50 chance of it ending badly, it gives both of you an opportunity to reveal what you feel about eachother. At the end of this conversation, if both parties are honest, the couple should be able to put a tag on their relationship, have reasonable demands of each other, and hold each partner accountable.

What Are We Doing?

This should clear any doubts about whether emotions should get involved or not. The answers can range from;

“We are just hanging out”

“It is just sex”

“We kissed once”

“It does not mean anything”

To

“I love you”

“We are getting to know each other”

“This is important to me”

“It’s not just sex”

The answer will dictate the next step for the relationship and ensure that both parties are on the same page. It will also afford each partner an opportunity to decide whether they want to go on with whatever they are doing, or opt out.

How Far Is Too Far?

If you are in a non-committed relationship, you should set boundaries on how far is comfortable enough. If you are close friends with a married person, you both should agree on how close you two can get before it is too close for comfort. If you two are single and ready to mingle but have not committed to each other, you can agree on having casual sex and walking away without expectations or keeping sexual intimacy out of the equation while spending time with each other. It prevents the infantile “you took advantage of me” tantrums

Where Is This Going?

The ideal response to this question for people in relationships should be “to the altar” but you should ask your partner and be clear about it. Many people are in relationships that they do not expect or intend to end in marriage and may be genuinely bewildered when their partners spring the “when should I notify my family” question. You can come to an amicable resolution of the direction of the relationship and make plans on how to get there.

It is a risky thing to assume anything in a relationship. The hurt of your partner telling you they don’t feel the same as you, cannot be compared to the anguish of finding out that you two have been operating on different mindsets about your relationship for long. The conversation can be unnerving and a bit uncomfortable to initiate but every couple should have it as often as possible. Feelings and expectations change, so do people; as such, it is important to keep communication lines opens and keep adjusting and updating the status of your relationship

SOURCE: PulseNG

Things about your relationship you shouldn’t tell your friends

If you’re with the most amazing partner on the surface of the earth, it is almost impossible not to talk about him.

Have you ever had your dream Christmas present and couldn’t show it to your friends? That’s just about how it feels to shut up about your amazing partner.

There are things about your relationship you can tell your friends, and there others you should not whisper a word of. Here are some of the no-nos:

• You absolutely cannot tell your friends about your partner’s intimate secrets. If you get invited into your partner’s world to share in their fears and vulnerabilities, you cannot share it with a third party. This is because it is your partner’s story to share, not yours; not anyone’s.

• Of course you cannot tell your friends that your partner dislikes them and thinks they are stupid, vain or boring. Ideally, you are to be the bridge between your friends and the people you date. You set yourself up for antagonism when your friends dislike your partner or vice versa because of something you said.

• Who stands to gain if your friends know that your partner has a somewhat unappealing body part? No one, really. If you respect your partner, and want to avoid your friends laughing at you behind your back, you will keep the story of your partner’s imperfections – a hairy bum perhaps – in your bedroom where it belongs.

• Unless your partner is a serial asshole who threatens your physical and emotional safety, keep your fights to yourself. All couples fight, and usually they patch up after tempers are calm. After you are all gooey-eyed when the fight has ended, you may have a hard time convincing your friends that you didn’t mean the terrible things you said about your partner.

• Finally, unless you’re comfortable with unsolicited acts of charity, you may want to hold on till your creditors actually threaten to kick you out of your home before telling your friends about the financial challenges you and your partner are facing.

The proper way to apologize to your partner

You can actually get into more trouble for apologizing wrongly than not apologizing at all, and you don’t necessarily have to be dealing with a crazy partner to experience such a turn of events.

As if a fight didn’t ruin the magic enough, you would have to deal with your partner’s unhappiness because you didn’t apologize ‘the right way’. Here’s how to say sorry, and say it right.

·      First of all, you have to admit that your partner is hurt. This isn’t the time to bring out a PowerPoint presentation of how they are being irrational, or of how you’re right and they are wrong. What matters is they are hurt, so apologize for their pain. Who is wrong or right can be discussed later when tempers are calm.

·      Sometimes people say sorry just to stem their partner’s complaints of how badly they have been treated. The moment their partners open their mouths and say ‘Honey I really didn’t like…’ they supply a perfunctory sorry; never mind that they don’t know what exactly it is they did wrong. Saying sorry just to prevent conflict doesn’t help; you only postpone the conflict.

·      You really have to know EXACTLY what you’re apologising for, so you don’t do it again. Apologizing for your partner’s hurt feelings is the first step, you have to establish clearly what it is you’re apologizing for.

·      Here’s the thing about apologies; they are more effective when they aren’t apologies to the same old issues. You can’t apologise five times in two months for the same thing, your partner will think you actually take delight in apologizing. Instead, why don’t you do try and do better? As an alternative to walking through the door and meeting a sulky partner, you can have a really good time if you come bearing the groceries she asked you to get, Santa style.

·      Finally, it goes without saying that you ought to mean your apology. Even if it has to take you a full week to see why you have to apologise, do it. Be at peace with yourself about giving that apology, it cannot be bullied out of you.