16 Questions Every 20-Something Should AskThemselves From Time To Time

As a 20-something you are faced with many challenges
and struggles. Whether those challenges are focusing
on your career path, your relationships, your body
image, or even your life’s purpose; no one can give you
the answers to the questions you should be asking
yourself. Asking yourself questions when faced with
life’s complications can inspire you to re-think, re-
analyze and re-configure the way you have been living
life.

1. Am I Living Up To My Full Potential?
As a 20-something it’s easy to reach certain milestones
in life, and slowly begin to plateau. The personal
growth incurred by challenging your capabilities, can
help you reach the best version of yourself that you
have ever experienced.
2. Do I Compare
Myself To Others Too
Often?
It’s easy to get caught up
in what your peers are
accomplishing while living
in their twenties.
Comparing yourself to
someone that isn’t you,
may only bring
discouragement. You may
feel as if you are falling
behind, when in fact you
are the leader of your own
life journey.
3. Do I Live In The Present?
As a 20-something you begin to explore who you really
are. In order to define your present, you need to keep
the past behind you and the future in the horizon. Try
living in the moments before they pass. Your past is
the foundation to the present, and the present will
shape the future.
4. What Are My Life Goals?
Building life goals strengthens the purpose to life.
While living in the present is essential to happiness,
having a bucket list can give you something to look
forward. Achieving goals does not happen over night,
so taking small steps that can be applied to your
everyday life, can help build towards your future
accomplishments.
5. What Triggers My Stress?
It’s important to understand your stress triggers, so
you can recognize them when they are present in your
life. Once you can recognize your triggers, managing
how you react to stress becomes a lot easier, and you
can deal with stress on a mature and manageable
level.
6. Do I Recognize My Weaknesses?
It can be easy at times to point out the faults and
weakness of others, but have you ever analyzed your
own weaknesses? Recognizing your weaknesses may
open many doors for self-improvement and personal
growth.
7. Do I Recognize My Growth Throughout The
Years?
Life sure feels like a scramble as a 20-something, but
stopping to absorb all of the incredible things that you
have accomplished so far can really encourage and
motivate you to aim higher with everything else that
you do.
8. Do My Friends Reflect Who I Really Am?
As a 20-something you might hang on to friends from
high school, from college, from university, from past
work facilities, and so on. Not to say you should say
good-bye to all past friendships and only focus on the
new, but you should make sure that you are
surrounding yourself with people who also reflect who
you are and who you want to be.
9. Do I Make My Decisions Based On The
Needs Of Others?
Whether it’s the need for acceptance or recognition,
sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in what others
want from you, for you. Making decisions based on
the needs of others is a short-term fix to keep the
people around you content so you can bypass endless
questions. However, it’s you who ultimately has to live
with your decisions.
10. Am I Spending Money On The Wrong
Things?
Saving money can feel impossible once all monthly
living expenses are covered. Making a practical budget
and breaking down what you actually need and use
can really help you see what you have been disposing
your money on. Try looking at your wants verses your
needs. You may want 2GB of data for your fancy new
smart phone, but why not cut the cost of your data
plan if you’re actually only using 500MB each month?
Do this practice for your cable bill, your grocery list, or
even your personal products.
11. Am I Ready To Begin Investing In My
Future?
Knowing the lifestyle you want to live can determine
how you should invest in your future. A part of
investing in your future is deciding a career path. The
rest of it is buying property and planning for
retirement, which in your twenties may seem obscure.
12. Do I Feel Like An Equal Contributor In My
Workplace?
As a 20-something it’s easy to get looked at as the
“rookie” in any job position. If you are putting in hard,
honest work ethic and not receiving credit for the
work you are doing, it can feel daunting. If you find
yourself in a workplace where you are not seen as an
equal maybe it’s time to find your voice and speak up.
13. What Do I Need From A Romantic
Relationship?
You might have experienced a romantic relationship at
some point during your twenties, and it may not have
worked out, that’s okay. With each relationship had,
you are constantly learning about yourself, as well as
others, and what you need out of a life partner. Try
taking all of your past relationships and picking out the
qualities that you appreciated most, and all of the
qualities that held no room for compromise. This will
show you the characteristics that are most attractive
and important to you.
14. Am I Too Dependent On My Parents?
Sometimes being a 20-something is doing things on
your own without parental guidance. As a child,
parents were usually there to help you as best as they
could in all aspects. As an adult, your parents may be
there to mentally support you, but they are no longer
held responsible to pay your bills, drive you around, or
book your appointments.
15. Do I Love Myself?
Self-love can be hard to wrap your head around when
you’re a 20-something, but when you find it, you have
a whole new appreciation for yourself. Self-love is
about being understanding towards your own needs,
as well as having the courage to stand up for yourself
even when you’re standing alone. Self-love is knowing
how to forgive yourself, and having the ability to live
life worry-free from the thoughts others may have of
you.
16. Am I Happy?
A question that trumps all; knowing your weaknesses,
knowing your strengths, and ultimately understanding
yourself as best as possible, will help you find your
happiness.

Top 9 Tips for Maintaining a Positive Attitude

Having and maintaining a positive attitude is vital for
success in life and business. Zig Ziglar gets it right
when he says, “It is your attitude, not your aptitude,
that determines your altitude.” Sure you need skills,
but you can learn skills – in fact a positive attitude will
make it much more likely that you will learn the skills
necessary to succeed. If you take two people with an
equal skill set the person with the better attitude will
win.
Unfortunately it is not always easy to stay positive and
keep a good attitude.
As things go wrong
throughout your day, it is
easy to let negative
thoughts start to take
over. Thankfully there are
many things that you can
do to help maintain a
positive attitude. These are
things that you can do on a
daily, weekly, or monthly
basis to make sure you
keep your positive focus.

1. Read Positive and
Inspiring Books
One of the best ways to maintain a positive
attitude is by reading positive books. These
books serve to encourage you, inspire you,
and teach you. Reading requires that you sit
still and focus, and by focusing on something
positive it helps you to keep a positive mindset
throughout the day.
2. Listen to Podcasts/CDS
The advantage of listening to podcasts or
compact disks is that you can listen on the go.
You can listen to motivating podcasts while
you clean your house, exercise, or on a flight.
In your car, you can play encouraging compact
disks that help you make better use of your
commute. Listening to recordings from people
like Zig Ziglar, Tony Robbins, or John Maxwell
can both teach and inspire you.
3. Wake up Early
One of the best ways to help you maintain a
positive attitude is to create the habit of
waking up early. Waking up early allows you to
get a head start on the day. You can prepare
for work and start your day without feeling
rushed. You can get a head start on important
projects before the rest of the world is awake
to interrupt you. You can spend time reading
or in prayer or meditation. I start each day by
listening to a 10 minute motivational podcast.
4. Exercise
Very few things in life leverage your time as
much as exercise. Obviously it makes a
difference for your physical health, but it also
has significant benefits to your mental health.
Exercise is useful to combat depression and to
improve overall positive mood. Further, if you
exercise early in the morning you can go
through your day knowing that you have
already completed the most valuable activity
you had to do!
5. Plan Your Week and Day
Having a clear plan to your day and to your
week can go a long way to helping you
maintain a positive attitude. By knowing what
you want to accomplish you will be able to
focus on your important life priorities. A
weekly plan allows you to match your long-
term goals to your weekly accomplishments.
Your daily plan allows you complete the
activities you need to do so that you meet your
weekly goals.
6. Understand that Things Won’t Always Go as
Planned
If you plan and expect everything in life will go
as you planned, you will be quickly
disappointed. One of the keys to maintaining a
positive attitude is to understand that things
will go wrong. If you expect things to go
wrong, you won’t be phased when they do. So
have a plan, but understand that things won’t
follow the plan. The plan allows you to adapt
to what went wrong and move back towards
what is important.
7. Get Spiritually Connected
Naturally this one will look different for
everyone, and this is simply an option to
consider. If you are spiritually connected, you
will have a positive outlook on life. This might
mean prayer, meditation or reading Scripture.
Set aside time each day to be connected
spiritually.
8. Be Thankful
Take some time and be thankful. Be thankful
about what you have, who you are, and what
your life is like. Think through all of the things
that you can be thankful for. Even if you are in
a tough time in life there are many things you
have that you can be thankful for. You need to
look for them and recognize them. The very
act of focusing on what you are thankful for
will help you maintain your positive attitude.
9. Surround Yourself with Positive People
The people around you have a big impact on
you. They impact who you are, how much
money you will make, and what you value.
They also impact how you think. If you
surround yourself with negative people you
will be negative as well. You can’t help it.
Hearing negativity all day leads you to
negativity. The opposite is also true. Surround
yourself with positive people and you will be
more positive.