We have all been in situations where we meet someone that we feel we would really hit it off with as a friend, but then we end up walking away without having made a closer connection.
It’s tough to know how to change your interaction from just a casual conversation to a potential friendship, without seeming awkward or needy. These ten tips will help you connect more deeply in the initial minutes of a conversation, and ensure that you’re not left regretting that you didn’t try hard enough to make a new acquaintance into a new friend.
1. Ask open ended questions.
It is difficult to connect with someone if you ask them questions that can be answered in two words. There is no chance for a connection to develop. Instead of asking, “Where do you live?” trying asking “What do you think of your neighborhood?” Instead of “where did you get that shirt?” try “What do you think of the new store in the mall?” The longer you talk, the more chance there is for a connection to grow.
2. Find things in common.
If your potential new friend interned at Credit Suisse, discuss that your brother works in finance. If she is all about reality TV, tell her which shows you’re into. Friendship is built on commonalities.
3. Use emotion words.
Sticking to the facts makes a conversation dry and boring. You want to capture your new acquaintance’s interest by using emotion words so they can connect with you on a genuine level. Instead of going into detail about where you stayed on your trip to London, talk about how anxious you felt when you almost missed your connection. Instead of describing how long your commute is, discuss how much you dread that hour of your day.
4. Think of who this person reminds you of.
If this person reminds you of a friend, someone on TV, or a public figure, tell them, as long as it isn’t insulting, of course. People love to hear who others think they look or act like. It is flattering that someone thinks about you enough to compare you to someone that they know and like.
5. Say positive things.
Don’t complain or whine about your life or discuss how upset you are by friend or work drama. This makes a potential friend wary of getting too close. It can seem like you’re always creating drama and negative energy, which is a turn off.
6. Don’t gossip.
Many people will gossip right back, but then won’t be interested in becoming a closer friend to you. In the back of their mind, they will keep wondering what you’re going to say about them when their back is turned. Try to stay positive and give people the benefit of the doubt when you talk about them, or better, just talk about the two of you without dragging others, who aren’t even there, into the conversation.
7. Don’t self-deprecate.
It can make people feel awkward to be around individuals who talk badly about themselves, complaining about their various terrible qualities. They feel like they have to reassure you, and nobody wants to be someone’s therapist (unless they, like me, are a therapist).
8. Praise mutual friends.
If you know someone in common, talk nicely about them. This will increase the chances that this new acquaintance thinks well of you, and it also makes it likely that the three of you can hang out sometime.
9. Discuss potential future activities.
If your new acquaintance mentions an activity that you also enjoy, invite them to join you in the future. Not in a creepy way where you bring out your phone and start looking at the calendar, but just say that you’d love to have them come along surfing the next time you go to the beach, or whatever the case may be.
10. Don’t be shy about asking to connect.
Plant the seed that you want to be closer friends by saying something like, “I’ll definitely have to friend you on Facebook.” This is also a good way to assess whether this person is also interested in being friends. If they seem excited and later immediately accept your friend request, it’s likely that a friendship may be developing.
If you follow these 10 tips, it is likely you’ll be able to connect much more readily with people who interest you. Now try some of these out, and don’t blame us if you end up with too many plans for the weekend.
LIFEHACK
Friday, June 24, 2016
Those Physical Features Guys Can't Resist
So, according to this research, men are attracted to women with these 6 interesting features below:
1.) Less Makeup
You may think that contouring, layers of eye shadow, and bold lips are making you more beautiful, but as it turns out, the natural look is more appealing to men. The study says that men prefer women who use up to 40% fewer cosmetics. But it shouldn't take science to tell you that the natural you, is the best you.
2.) A High Voice:
According to the study, a high-pitched voice evokes youthfulness and signifies a small, feminine body, both of which are attractive to men.
3.) Healthy Hair:
Shiny, full, and long hair is very attractive to men. Again, it's a sign of health and fertility. Maybe women should also thank their stars for the existence of very sleek wigs. I mean, with regular salon visits and blowouts, you're good to go!
4.) A Wider Waist to Hips Ratio:
Apparently, a ratio of 7:10 is particularly pleasing. The waist and hips are related to childbirth, making men think, those big hips would be great for delivering my baby! This one is pretty obvious– men like small waists and big butts. I guess that would explain why waist-trainers and the Kardashians are trending.
5.) Wearing Red:
In Stevie Wonder's voice "the woman in red…" There's a reason red is associated with lust. Scientists have proven that wearing red enhances attraction. In fact, they've found this phenomenon to hold true in other animals as well.
Note to self: dry clean red dress for Saturday date night. It works magic!
6.) Smiles:
Well obviously, happy people are attractive people and attract other happy people. Plus, science has also proven the whiter the teeth, the better.
This all said, there's plenty of counter research that men are just happy to be getting laid at all. One thing's for sure– they're lucky to have us, just the way we are.
Source : PulseNG
1.) Less Makeup
You may think that contouring, layers of eye shadow, and bold lips are making you more beautiful, but as it turns out, the natural look is more appealing to men. The study says that men prefer women who use up to 40% fewer cosmetics. But it shouldn't take science to tell you that the natural you, is the best you.
2.) A High Voice:
According to the study, a high-pitched voice evokes youthfulness and signifies a small, feminine body, both of which are attractive to men.
3.) Healthy Hair:
Shiny, full, and long hair is very attractive to men. Again, it's a sign of health and fertility. Maybe women should also thank their stars for the existence of very sleek wigs. I mean, with regular salon visits and blowouts, you're good to go!
4.) A Wider Waist to Hips Ratio:
Apparently, a ratio of 7:10 is particularly pleasing. The waist and hips are related to childbirth, making men think, those big hips would be great for delivering my baby! This one is pretty obvious– men like small waists and big butts. I guess that would explain why waist-trainers and the Kardashians are trending.
5.) Wearing Red:
In Stevie Wonder's voice "the woman in red…" There's a reason red is associated with lust. Scientists have proven that wearing red enhances attraction. In fact, they've found this phenomenon to hold true in other animals as well.
Note to self: dry clean red dress for Saturday date night. It works magic!
6.) Smiles:
Well obviously, happy people are attractive people and attract other happy people. Plus, science has also proven the whiter the teeth, the better.
This all said, there's plenty of counter research that men are just happy to be getting laid at all. One thing's for sure– they're lucky to have us, just the way we are.
Source : PulseNG
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