Chances are if you're above the drinking age limit, you've probably experienced a break up at some point or the other.
If you've not however, count your blessings.
Break ups can be a tough situation to deal with, especially in this age of social media where we're all not just physically connected, but also in virtual space via one social media account or the other.
This largely means that in a break up situation we not only have to go through the withdrawal process physically, we also have to severe ties online too.
By and large though, break ups vary from one person to the other, while some are amicable, others are bitter and drawn out, while there are cases where one party simply makes an unannounced exit from their partner's life, also known as (aka) "ghosting".
Regardless of which end of the spectrum one falls, it's never an easy process to severe emotional ties with anyone.
So, we've put together 7 points to guide anyone dealing with such a situation. Check them out.
1. Have a mourning period: You've just got out of an intimate situation with someone, it's perfectly human to be upset about it so don't let anyone talk you out of it. Allow yourself some time to wallow in the emotions - cry, be angry, moody whatever floats your boat. But only for a short while, then you must snap out of it and focus on healing.
2. Avoid being alone: With the mourning period over, avoid being alone as it gives you time to think, then you start to reminisce on your time together, get sad again and possibly get tempted to call, never a good idea especially if it wasn't an amicable breakup. So avoid being alone, instead hang out with friends and/or family.
3. Embark on a new project: Is there something you've always wanted to do - learn a new language, learn a new sport, take a course or even start a business? Seize the opportunity and do so now. Find something you're really passionate about and do it as this will keep your mind busy and distracted from the breakup you're dealing with.
4. Create a better version of yourself: The perfect revenge for a breakup is the ability to come out better whether it's finally getting to lose that weight, landing that dream job, setting up a business or even landing a much better catch. Petty? Maybe, but it works wonders for the ego which is always a good thing. So, turn an unpleasant situation around by focusing on creating a better version of yourself whether its physically, spiritually or financially.
5. Try something completely out of character: No, we're not talking about having a one night stand or anything like that. It's the simple things like taking a new route to work, talking to someone you normally don't talk to in the office or school, it could even visiting another state. There's nothing more distracting or fulfilling than trying something new.
6. Make new friends: Sometimes the world can suddenly have a new meaning when we experience it from someone else's perspective. So, make an effort to seek out new friends and you'd be surprised at how much fun you'll have in the process.
7. Get rid of every reminder of your ex: Notice how we've been harping on embarking on new experiences in the points above? The last thing you need is a reminder of what put you in a breakup situation in the first place, so delete, delete, block - phone numbers, pictures, social media accounts, friends everything. Just keep them away from immediate reach even if you don't want to delete.
Wednesday, August 10, 2016
5 ways to know if someone really loves you
There is no specific way to know if a person truly loves you but there are a few signals to let you figure out what is on the mind of your loved one.
Paying attention on how the person acts, what they say and what they do when you are together can let you know if the person you love loves you back.
1.) Is the person happy being around you?
If a person has had a very bad day but lights up when you come around, that's a sign of love. If he/she is in love with you then the sight of you or your voice is guaranteed to make him or her feel better. To be sure, see how s/he reacts the next time you show up when s/he was in a bad mood.
2.) Does the person say "I love you" and means it?
If your romantic partner really loves you and tells you this much while looking into your eyes, sounding earnest, and not wanting anything from you, then it's likely that s/he really means it. If the person undeniably loves you, then s/he will say it for no reason at all, not just because s/he needs a favor or because it feels like the right thing to say. However, remember that there is a big difference between "Love ya!" and "I love you."
3.) Can the person honestly be him/herself
around you?
When someone loves you, he completely opens up to you. If you get to see a whole side of that person that he/she doesn’t show the public, that may be a love sign. For instance, if your partner is pretty serious or polite in public, but shows a more goofy and silly side when you're alone, then s/he is really opening up to you and loves you. If the person shares his/her deepest emotions with you and is comfortable with it, then that is love. If the person is also being comfortable not looking perfect, tripping, or having food stuck in his or her teeth around you, that means s/he is okay if you see every side of him or her.
4.) How does the person look at you?
There is that stir that someone gives you that melts your soul. You can check your loved one's face the next time you see him/her… does he/she look at you in a goofy, watery, silly and adorable way that can only be described as "googly-eyed"? You will know it when you see it. You won't get this look all the time — you can spot it in the morning, or randomly across the dinner table. You may also be able to catch the person staring at you with the same expression.
5.) Does the person talk about your future
together?
If the person talks about the future and always includes you in it, then there is a good chance s/he truly loves you because true commitment means seeing a forever with another person. If the person routinely talks about what you're going to do in the future, about what your lives will look like one, two, or even ten years in the future together, what your kids will look like, where you will retire together, or where you will go for your honeymoon, then he is probably in love with you.
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Paying attention on how the person acts, what they say and what they do when you are together can let you know if the person you love loves you back.
1.) Is the person happy being around you?
If a person has had a very bad day but lights up when you come around, that's a sign of love. If he/she is in love with you then the sight of you or your voice is guaranteed to make him or her feel better. To be sure, see how s/he reacts the next time you show up when s/he was in a bad mood.
2.) Does the person say "I love you" and means it?
If your romantic partner really loves you and tells you this much while looking into your eyes, sounding earnest, and not wanting anything from you, then it's likely that s/he really means it. If the person undeniably loves you, then s/he will say it for no reason at all, not just because s/he needs a favor or because it feels like the right thing to say. However, remember that there is a big difference between "Love ya!" and "I love you."
3.) Can the person honestly be him/herself
around you?
When someone loves you, he completely opens up to you. If you get to see a whole side of that person that he/she doesn’t show the public, that may be a love sign. For instance, if your partner is pretty serious or polite in public, but shows a more goofy and silly side when you're alone, then s/he is really opening up to you and loves you. If the person shares his/her deepest emotions with you and is comfortable with it, then that is love. If the person is also being comfortable not looking perfect, tripping, or having food stuck in his or her teeth around you, that means s/he is okay if you see every side of him or her.
4.) How does the person look at you?
There is that stir that someone gives you that melts your soul. You can check your loved one's face the next time you see him/her… does he/she look at you in a goofy, watery, silly and adorable way that can only be described as "googly-eyed"? You will know it when you see it. You won't get this look all the time — you can spot it in the morning, or randomly across the dinner table. You may also be able to catch the person staring at you with the same expression.
5.) Does the person talk about your future
together?
If the person talks about the future and always includes you in it, then there is a good chance s/he truly loves you because true commitment means seeing a forever with another person. If the person routinely talks about what you're going to do in the future, about what your lives will look like one, two, or even ten years in the future together, what your kids will look like, where you will retire together, or where you will go for your honeymoon, then he is probably in love with you.
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6 completely random things anyone who's been in a long term relationship can relate to
Relationships can be a beautiful thing especially when one is fortunate enough to be with one you're truly compatible with.
Despite how great they can be however, every relationship hits a rough patch every now and again, and even more, there are times when you feel like you just want your space.
No one understands this better than he/she who has been in a long-term relationship.
This group have weathered all kinds of storms together and despite the odds that sometimes lay against them, they sail through it and come out stronger.
Here are 6 completely random things anyone who's been in a long term relationship can relate to.
1. Being faced with the "so-when-are-you-guys-
getting-married?" question at LEAST once a week: From friends and family to everyone in between, you've been inundated with this question more times than you care to remember.
2. You fart in front of each other without flinching: You know you've arrived at a solid place with your partner (or even friend) when you can pass gas in front of them without feeling uncomfortable.
3. You can finish each other's thoughts: With just a glance across the room, you know it's time to take off.
4. You've planned your entire wedding and changed aso-ebi colours like 5 times: Ladies, this is all on you. You've combed through virtually every wedding website and are up-to-date on all the latest wedding trends, because of this you can't seem to make up your mind and have changed wedding dress styles and aso ebi colors on several ocassions.
5. You've reworked your life to align with your partner's plans: Suddenly that MBA seems like a waste of money because it means you'll have to be away from your partner for a while.
6. You know your ring size and have your engagement ring all picked out: You've hinted and all but spelt out exactly how your engagement ring should look like, proposal or not.
Source : PulseNg
Despite how great they can be however, every relationship hits a rough patch every now and again, and even more, there are times when you feel like you just want your space.
No one understands this better than he/she who has been in a long-term relationship.
This group have weathered all kinds of storms together and despite the odds that sometimes lay against them, they sail through it and come out stronger.
Here are 6 completely random things anyone who's been in a long term relationship can relate to.
1. Being faced with the "so-when-are-you-guys-
getting-married?" question at LEAST once a week: From friends and family to everyone in between, you've been inundated with this question more times than you care to remember.
2. You fart in front of each other without flinching: You know you've arrived at a solid place with your partner (or even friend) when you can pass gas in front of them without feeling uncomfortable.
3. You can finish each other's thoughts: With just a glance across the room, you know it's time to take off.
4. You've planned your entire wedding and changed aso-ebi colours like 5 times: Ladies, this is all on you. You've combed through virtually every wedding website and are up-to-date on all the latest wedding trends, because of this you can't seem to make up your mind and have changed wedding dress styles and aso ebi colors on several ocassions.
5. You've reworked your life to align with your partner's plans: Suddenly that MBA seems like a waste of money because it means you'll have to be away from your partner for a while.
6. You know your ring size and have your engagement ring all picked out: You've hinted and all but spelt out exactly how your engagement ring should look like, proposal or not.
Source : PulseNg
NUC's New Boss Resolves To Scrap Diploma Programmes In Universities
The new Executive Secretary of the National University Commission, Prof. Abubakar Adamu Rasheed, has disclosed that the commission will soon stop Universities from running diploma programmes.
He made this known when he was paid a visit by the the Executive Secretary of the National Board for Technical Education (NBTE), Dr Masaudu Kazaure in his office.
According to Prof. Rasheed, only polytechnics had the statutory right to run diploma programmes.
He equally stated that the federal government had earlier issued a circular as far back as 2000 prohibiting the use of Ordinary Diploma certificates either in the promotion or employment of staff in the civil service, adding that the commission would soon notify universities to stop the programmes.
He gave assurance that the commission will collaborate with NBTE towards developing a value print that will give polytechnics the capacity to run degree programmes.
He further dispelled rumours that the FG has converted Kaduna state Polytechnic and Yaba College of Technology to city universities and commended the recent move by the Council of Civil Service Establishments in making HND holders that have Post-Graduate Diploma (PGD) to be at par with university graduates in the civil service
He made this known when he was paid a visit by the the Executive Secretary of the National Board for Technical Education (NBTE), Dr Masaudu Kazaure in his office.
According to Prof. Rasheed, only polytechnics had the statutory right to run diploma programmes.
He equally stated that the federal government had earlier issued a circular as far back as 2000 prohibiting the use of Ordinary Diploma certificates either in the promotion or employment of staff in the civil service, adding that the commission would soon notify universities to stop the programmes.
He gave assurance that the commission will collaborate with NBTE towards developing a value print that will give polytechnics the capacity to run degree programmes.
He further dispelled rumours that the FG has converted Kaduna state Polytechnic and Yaba College of Technology to city universities and commended the recent move by the Council of Civil Service Establishments in making HND holders that have Post-Graduate Diploma (PGD) to be at par with university graduates in the civil service
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