“I would be so successful if someone just gave me a shot!”
Many people out there have mindsets and attitudes that set them up
for failure. When confronted with possible reasons for failure, or a
lack of personal success, they often end up just making excuses. Here
are 10 particular bad habits that keep those people from achieving
success.
1. Loafing
They’ll write that novel just as soon as they’re done with
their favorite show. Oh, but now they’re hungry. They’ll get started
after a snack. Oh, but now that snack has made them sleepy–a little nap
couldn’t hurt, right?
One of the hardest, and the most obvious, parts of achieving success
is the actual work. Procrastinating, making excuses or tricking
themselves into loafing is just going to cement the fact that nothing
will ever get done. It might not sound pretty, or even too easy, but the
easiest way to get to success is to just jump in and get going (which
is exactly
how I got started).
2. Blaming
It’s not their fault they’re not successful. The industry is bad,
they don’t have the money, etc. When it comes down to it, however, who
is the one responsible for their success? Themselves.
This is the day and age where people are launching successful
start-ups in a few months, getting published online and finding their
way to success one way or another. Some things might be out of
their control, but blaming
others is just going to waste the energy and time they need to get going.
3. Sour grapes
Being envious of the success of others is almost as bad as blaming
them. All the time and energy they could be putting into their own goals
is going towards a person who more than likely has done nothing but
show them that the goal is attainable. They don’t have to be applauding
their success, but being envious and sour about it is a waste of
time–let it roll off the shoulders and dig down towards accomplishing
goals.
4. Minimizing others success
Again, they don’t have to be cheering and raving about the success of
others, but minimizing their accomplishments looks bad on them and on
their own goals. If they attained success, would they want others
rolling their eyes and treating it like it is not a big deal in the
slightest? I highly doubt it. “So they climbed Mount Everest, big whoop.
Plenty of people have done it before.” Have they?
5. Talking
They’re going to do this, they’re going to do that–the proof is in
the pudding, ultimately. Talking about their goals and what they’re
going to accomplish is all well and good, but talking time is better
spent actually doing. Talking about goals has
actually been shown to make you less likely to reach them, so zip up those chattering lips and dive in.
6. Making assumptions
You know what they say about the word ‘assume’, it makes an
(inappropriate word I’ll leave out of this article) out of ‘u’ and ‘me’ .
Unsuccessful people are the best at making assumptions without
considering other outlets or opportunities. Missed chance after missed
chance can put anyone behind, or completely ruin something that
they poured a lot of hard work into. People are often surprised at what
happens if they take a chance instead of listening to that little
pessimist inside their heads. ‘Never assume’ is good advice and it is a
mindset they should get out of as quickly as possible.
7. Procrastinating
This one is obvious, isn’t it? It’s about the same as loafing, but
even worse because it applies to multiple areas of our lives. That big
project? Eh, its not due for a week. Dreams? Eh, going to be taking a
class to learn how to write in a few months, I’m just relaxing until
then.
Procrastination is not the friend of successful people. Many of them
had to learn how to either make procrastination work for them or to
barrel through it and press on, even with the proverbial sloth demanding
you park it on the couch.
8. Naysaying
“It will never work. It is impossible, I just can’t …” That is about
when it is time to take a good look at what they’re doing. There are a
plethora of people out there that once thought the same thing:
they can’t get a man into space, they can’t find a way for a human to
fly, they can’t cure a disease. Well, people did what was once
considered impossible. If they can defy the entire world, why can’t
they defy the internal pessimist and get there? Don’t say that it is
impossible. In the world we live in today, it seems like impossible is
becoming a word that gets weaker every day.
9. Consuming
Fast food, energy drinks, trash TV–their brain is sobbing at the
thought. With all the time spent taking in things that are not good for
their brain or body, how can anyone expect it to happily balance out and
produce the stuff they need to achieve success? Output should be
greater than input; though they don’t have to take the starving artist
spiel literally. The point is, production is where the value is, not the
absorption.
10. Quitting
“Well, I tried.” Sure, they tried once. That horse is shaking its
head and trotting off to find someone who will get back on it. There’s
nothing necessarily wrong with cutting losses sometimes. After all, no
experience is ever truly wasted, but quitting is the mortal enemy to
successful people. If they believe in something, they want to find that
success, there is no road map. You may very well have to carve your own
path through treacherous jungle. If they give up the first time a
mosquito bites, then they’ve doomed themselves already.
Success, in large part, is about the human being in the arena. People
cheer for them, their struggle and victory, but the person who watches
idly and scoffs, having never tried has also never really lived.
Mindsets are not set in stone. It is never too late to get started
and change perspective. After all, achieving success is completely up to
them; they are the one making excuses and holding themselves back.
Decide when it is time to stand up and get back into that arena.