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Virgin Till Marriage (VTM) Reorientation: ”Don’t Wake Up Love Before
Time”

I thought I had waited enough, so when it
was time to go for my NYSC, I made up my
mind to date any cute guy that comes my
way,afterall I was mature and ripe for marriage. Though I never believed in dating,
but so many things just appeared to be
wrong with my life, even when they were not.
I had been a virgin since birth, never dated,
this was due to what my mum taught me. Her words, ”never wake up love whenit is
not time, and when it is time, don’t fall for it,
stand with your eyes open, then walk into
it.” I bounded those words to my heart all
through my university days, but as soon as it
was time for my NYSC, I felt they should be thrown away as trash.
I was now a big girl, who should be
approached for marriage. My new believe
was that, if a lady does not get her man on
camp, then she is likely going to settle a
single lady, or with any kind of man outside her desires. I was losing my faith and trust in
God, which had led me thus far, I was now
following the way of the world.
Just three days at the camp, he came to tell
me he was interested in me. His words, ”I
love the way you carry yourself, your Christianity, and simplicity. You will surely be
a wonderful wife to your husband when you
get married. So who is the lucky guy, I mean
your fiance?”
His question threw me off balance that I
didn’t know when I told him I was still single and available. Foolish me, was I supposed to
advertize my singleness and availability to a
man whom God has not revealed anything
about me to? He only admired my beauty,
liked my character and simplicity, not that he
heard from God that I was the lady for him. But I have already revealed to him howdesperate I was towards having a man in my
life.
Anything done outside the leading of the
spirit, is indeed carnal. He was handsome and
intelligent, but still he was not the right man. Did I care? Did I even seek the face of God
concerning him? I do hear from God quite
alright, but I was desperate to have a ”Him”
by my side.
When he heard my reply about being single
and available, that day he began his chase after me. Like a He-goat, he kept coming, and
like a She-goat on heat period, I gave him a
try. The door of my heart opened, and then
we began dating. My emotions and feelings
clouded my spiritual eyes and ear, that all I
see in my dreams was his image and his voice. On one ocassion, I saw both of us
purchasing wedding gown and other wedding
items. All that made me to believe I was
already in the will of God concerning a life
partner.
So my feelings and love for him increased, I was now visiting uncontrollably, and was hanging out with him. Hmm, the devil must
have said, ”the ‘all her life virgin’ has found a
lover, let’s see how she will control herself.”
Was it easy? Could my legs still be crossed? I
was losing my mind, and the urge for sex
would not spare me. Day by day, this urge increased, it was burning like fire. I wish
water could quench it… No way, it wasbeyond a physical fire.
Then that night came, the night of becoming
one flesh. It was his saliva into my saliva, his
body into my body, and his blood into my blood. I was deflowered, my twenty-six
years of virginity gone in five minutes. Did I
plan to break it that way? Without walking
down the aisle? I was ashamed of myself,
naked before a man who has not visited my
parents, let alone pay my dowry. ”Is this me?” I asked myself. ”What went wrong?”
Uncontrolled tears quietly escaped from my
eyes.
When he stool up to dress up, a shining object
mistakenly left the pocket of his trouser, and
made its way to the ground. When I glanced at it, I was shocked to discover the obvious,
it was his wedding ring. ”Are you married?” I
quickly asked. He didn’t say a word, he only
nodded, thereafter, he appologized and left
the room as if nothing happened.
Picking up my dress was something I found difficult to do, until I heard a voice, ”Come de
go make I arrrange my room,” the voice of
the owner of the room whom he paid just to
exploit me. Hmm, my dignity was buried
alive. Before the stranger, I dressed up, still
thinking he was outside, I came out, but he was no where to be found. Since I left camp, I
have never set my eyes on him, who even
know if he was a true corper.
All my dreams and revelations were mere
imaginations. I threw away my mother’s
advice and the grace of God that kept me all through my campus years only to get all that,
now in tears I’m picking them up after the
mistake has been made….
Dear corper and readers, are you also goingto make such mistake? The grace of God and
the godly counsel that has kept you going, will you treat them like trash, even at this
point of your youth service? Many sisters and
brothers get defiled at camp, they lost their
self control immediately they see someone
who is likely to be their life partner.
Why will it be said that it was during your NYSC you got defiled? You whose orientation
is begining to change simply because you
enter a new environment, watch yourself
very well. You mustn’t meet your life
partner at the camp or in a new
environment. If you do, pray down the will of God concerning it, before accepting the
proposal. You mustn’t date to know him/her
better, if you do, your emotions and feelings
towards them are likely to cloud your mind,
and this will make it difficult for you to hear
from God. God still speaks to us, He is ever interested
and more interested in our marriage than we
are or think. Put Him first, and you will be
glad you did.

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5 MEALS EVERY KSU UNDERGRADUATE MUST BE ABLE TO PREPARE

As Ksu undergraduates, and i am basing this on my personal experience, food is a major part of our lives, what to eat is a question we wake up and sleep with. Away from home and mother’s food, most of us learn to cook while in school, experimenting daringly every day. The thing about ayingba is if you don't eat poperly,the sun will kill you,if you manage to survive the sun will,the everyday trecking will kill you,or the stress,or those evil things called atm machines,and so many other things And whether you are an expert cook or not, male or female, the meals i have listed are a must.
1. Indomie Instant Noodles
As popular as Coca Cola, Indomie Noodles leads the pack in instant noodles production. Every student should be able to throw together a plate of edible noodles. With or without eggs, sardines or other condiments. Anyone can eat noodles raw,but as a student you must master the art of cooking properly, to impress visitors and keep you alive, especially during the examinations.

5 Meals Every Nigerian Undergraduate Must Be Able To Prepare

2. Egusi Soup
It is quite easy to prepare and relatively cheap. This qualities make Egusi soup the friend of every student. If you do not know how to prepare proper Egusi soup, you might need tutorials from home or friends. A pot every other weekend will reduce your time spent deciding what to eat, all you have to do is prepare ‘eba’ and you are home free.

5 Meals Every Nigerian Undergraduate Must Be Able To Prepare

3. Jollof Rice
Now this is a Nigerian staple, and the beauty of jollof rice, is that no one has a monopoly of what it should look or taste like. There are a million and one ways to prepare jollof rice, and all you need as a student is one or two, either with fresh tomatoes or canned ones. And you can prepare with meat, fish or nothing at all. It is relatively cheap and will impress your visitors.

5 Meals Every Nigerian Undergraduate Must Be Able To Prepare

4. Beans
Well, this is not everyone’s favorite, you cant deny it comes in handy. One of the reasons every student should know how to prepare beans is that it can be eaten with other things, pap, custard, bread, garri, to mention but a few. And if your budget is limited, all it takes is palm oil, onions, salt and a little crayfish. One disadvantage is that it takes a while and might deplete your kerosene or gas supply. It is however perfect when you have visitors you do not want to feed.

5 Meals Every Nigerian Undergraduate Must Be Able To Prepare

5. Stew

This is for Sundays. Stews are quite versatile. You can prepare chicken stew, fish stew, beef stew, or just stew. And then fresh or canned tomatoes, just add spices to taste and you are ready. And once you have a pot of stew, all you have to do is to decide between white rice, yam or even bread each day.

Ways To Fight Distractions In School

 Wikipedia describes Distraction, thus:
Distraction is the process of diverting the attention of an individual or group from the desired area of focus and thereby blocking or diminishing the reception of desired information. Distraction is caused by: the lack of ability to pay attention; lack of interest in the object of attention; or the great intensity, novelty or attractiveness of something other than the object of attention. Distractions come from both external sources, and internal sources.
We all know without doubt that it’s easy to get distracted – especially when you’re juggling a lot of projects. The secret to staying productive is recognizing the moments of distraction and immediately getting back on track.
There’s always an email to read, a text message to send, a Facebook stream to read, etc.
You see, there are distractions all around us – and there are plenty of excuses on why we’re not finishing up a project that has been sitting on our “to do” list. So how can we fight distractions.
1. Determination
Being determined goes a long way to help. Someone who has set his sights on a particular goal and is determined to fight off distractions to reach that goal, is more likely to be successful, than someone who has no determination and is willing to let himself be pushed in any direction at all.
2. Know the source
What keeps you distracted? Keep a list of items that trigger distractions for you (e.g. clicking a web browser, visiting Linda Ikeji, reading email, Facebook, Twitter etc.). Keep this list top of mind so you recognize the trigger that is leading you to distraction. Identifying distractions is key to stopping them.
3. Blur out Everything else
Once you know what distracts you,  it’s time to get hyper-focused to accomplish your projects. For me, this means putting on ear phones and listening to sounds of the ocean or rain (to block out all external noises). Second, it means turning facebook off and closing down all windows except for the one program or window I need. Third, it means putting my phone in a drawer so that I don’t see any text messages or know that anyone is calling. The only way to get in the zone to accomplish your goals is to zone out everything else.
4. Set daily goals for yourself.
If you want to stay focused on your projects, you need to set goals for yourself with specific time-frames. Not setting specific goals within a certain time-frame is the reason why we end up with items on our “to do” list that we never accomplish. And not having concrete goals makes it easier to get distracted. So set your goals – and accomplish them. No excuses.

5. Recognize the moments you get distracted and get back on task.
Look, you’re going to get distracted no matter how hard you try to stay on task – especially if you are at home or school. Your phone can ring, friends, colleagues or neighbours can drop by, etc. Even while writing this article, my attention was diverted by a BBM message  that looked interesting enough to start reading it. Within 15 seconds of reading it, I realized the distraction and got back to this article. The key is recognizing the distraction and getting back to work.

What-s Up !!!

What's up peepz,its freaky friday once again,and we have a little bit for you in terms of news,we serve you with what we have anyways:
- According to reports,the dean of student affair stated that the institution is against buying and selling of space in the hostel,and anybody caught in the act faces expulsion from the institution...
- Ksu students who who haven't resumed yet are urged to resume on or before monday as we get reports that lectures as started in some departments.
- Outside ksu
- UNIJOS(remember them) have finally called of their strike....

Lassa fever; All you need to know

The evil rats don come again ooo. After we survived ebola in 2014,they brought another one called lassa fever. This is all you need to know about this deadly virus:
CAUSE
Lassa Fever is caused by a virus called Lassa Virus. The virus belongs to a group of viruses which cause hemorrhagic fevers such dengue fever, ebola fever, yellow fever etc. The virus is also characterised by bleeding disorders and can progress to shock and death in many cases.
HOW IT SPREADS
Rats.
Lassa fever lives and multiplies in a particular type of rat called the Natal multimammate mouse which is found in sub-Saharan Africa.
The virus is contained in the urine and stool of rats. If the urine of the rats contaminates exposed food and humans the food, they can contract the disease. Breathing in the dried stool can also lead to being infected.
The virus spreads from person to person through direct contact with body fluids-saliva, nasal discharge,blood of infected persons etc.
THE SYMPTOMS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT
Lassa Fever’s symptoms can be very tricky. It is usually similar to malaria and typhoid fever. These are some of the symptoms a victim experiences
• Fever
• Headache
• Sometimes vomiting and diarrhoea
• Yellowness of the eye balls.
• As the disease progresses, some organs may fail
• Bleeding may occur into the skin or/and from gums, nose, into the eyes.
COMPLICATIONS
• Deafness.
• Abortion
• Organ failure.
• About 1% of all infections end up in death.
HOW TO PREVENT LASSA FEVER
Avoid Rats. Avoid contact with them, cover your food so they don’t come in contact with them. Do not eat rats
Isolate infected persons. And use of masks, gloves, gowns, goggles etc when attending to infected persons.
Keep a clean house and environment.
TREATMENT
All persons suspected of Lassa fever infection should be admitted to isolation facilities and their body fluids and excreta properly disposed of. Early supportive care with rehydration and symptomatic treatment improves survival.

What's up !!!

Hello people of ksu,the land of sun sand,its a subtle wenesday afternoon on this part of town,and on what's up today we bring you the issues and happenings around ksu.

 Screening is still on,a lot of screening in and screening out,no maths no english no  this no that,change of course change of faculty,a lot of things going down with the fresh students and their credentials,wishing y'all the best though...

 Final year balloting for hostels continue today(from yesterday),and the hostel balloting for fresh students is sheduled to hold on saturday(bring your school fees teller and admission letter with you).

 Am not quite sure why they postponed the balloting thingy to this week,am thinking its because they want to release another admission list,but ksu act "coco" at times,they might decide to release another list and term it "BATCH B", or just add names to the batch A that's already on the portal. in any case,aspirants should be on the look out,just keep checking the portal this week.

 Meanwhile,returning students have some few questions to ask the school,like:

* what's up with the results

* what's up with the natural science guys and their exams

* why the hell will they create a link for registration steps on the portal when their's no link for the actual registration.

My take,Ksu really needs to step up from their secondary school level and become an actual university,and also the v.c should start resolving issues rather than forming buhari up and down.

 Meanwhile other v.cs of actual universities have been working,as ;

* FUTMINNA,last friday withdraws a whooping 460 students(what!!!) for poor academic performance,as they served letter of withdrawal for this students who were said to be 100 level students that had below the 1.5 grade point stipulated by NUC for students to move on to the next level,and virtually all the faculties were affected.....four hundred and sixty !!! WTF !!!....what happend to those guys...did they all leave their brains athome or what ??

* UNICAL also followed suit,they expelled 9 students and suspended four more for examination misconduct....chai...
- UNIJOS by the way are still battling with their journey of no return strike,good news though,as the minister for youth and sport has intervened,and both the UNIJOS ASUU members and students alike have high hopes that the intervention by the minister will finally bring the strike to an end.
That's all for now...am out !!!

Sex and relationship: Small Things You Can Do To Make A Big Difference In Your Relationship

Successful relationships don’t just come together haphazardly. They take effort from both people involved to continue building upon the foundation on which the relationship began. Too often, life gets in the way, and many of the little things fall through the cracks. Because of this, it’s important to remember that a relationship should be one of the most meaningful aspects of a person’s life, and it’s worth every ounce of energy you put into it.
Here are a few small things that can make a big difference in your relationship.

1. Give long embraces

Emo band Saves the Day once said “nothing’s like being held sometimes.” While I’d advise you to take caution when taking advice from an emo band, you should definitely hold onto this one. After a long day’s work, there really isn’t much better than spending a few minutes wrapped in each other’s arms. It allows you to forget the outside world, if only for a few moments, and remember why you both work so hard in the first place.

2. Leave little reminders around for them to find

I don’t think there’s much else that makes me smile more than seeing a little note from my wife attached to my windshield when getting in my car in the morning. The little things that let your significant other know that you’re thinking of them can completely turn their day around. Even texting a picture of something that reminded you of them is enough. Everyone loves to feel important; show the person you love the most just how important they are every chance you get.

3. Show gratitude for everything they do for you

You undoubtedly appreciate your significant other very much. But do you show it all the time? Don’t just show your thankfulness around birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays. Make it a point to thank them every day for even the tiniest of favors. Whenever they do something for you, they’re allowing you to relax just a little longer. Thank them for it. It shows you don’t take them for granted, and you acknowledge just how much they mean to you.

4. Make their life easier whenever you can

On the flip side of the last point, you should do everything you can to make their life easier. Even if that means stopping at the store at the end of a long day or running back out if they forgot to grab something. Clean the house or have dinner ready on the table when they get home. Keep in mind everything they’ve given you, tangible and intangible, as a reminder for when you don’t “feel like” doing something, and do it anyway, knowing it will ease their troubles a little more.

5. Take a break from busyness for them

We all lead busy lives. But you should never be so busy that you don’t have time to spend with your significant other. Otherwise, what’s the point of working so hard? I’m not saying you should completely blow off your responsibilities to spend time with your significant other, but definitely recognize when you’ve spent way too much time on work-related obligations and hit the pause button. Sometimes, you just need to put everything else on the back burner and enjoy some quality time with your love.

6. Tell them why you love them

You probably tell one another you love each other all the time. Obviously, there’s nothing wrong with that. But take it a step further: tell them whyyou love them. Make them understand exactly what it is that keeps you tied to them. Put some thought into it, too. You’ll likely end up finding even more reasons to love them than you had realized in the first place.

Nigerians That Should Inspire You This Year

The NerveAfrica compiled a list of 20 Africans they feel should inspire you in 2016. Out of this brilliant list, we have culled a list of Nigerians that should inspire you this year, we hope they do:
1. Akinwumi Adesina 
Akinwumi Adesina is the President of the African Development Bank. He previously served as Nigeria‘s Minister of Agriculture and Rural Development. Until his appointment as Minister in 2010, he was Vice President of Policy and Partnerships for the Alliance for a Green Revolution in Africa (AGRA). On May 28, 2015, he was elected to become the next President of the African Development Bank. He began his tenure of the office on September 1, 2015.  He is the eighth president in the organization’s history, and the first Nigerian to hold the postAkinwumi Adesina is the President of the African Development Bank. He previously served as Nigeria‘s Minister of Agriculture and Rural Development. Until his appointment as Minister in 2010, he was Vice President of Policy and Partnerships for the Alliance for a Green Revolution in Africa (AGRA). On May 28, 2015, he was elected to become the next President of the African Development Bank. He began his tenure of the office on September 1, 2015.  He is the eighth president in the organization’s history, and the first Nigerian to hold the post
3. Chude Jideonwo
Chude Jideonwo (born 16 March 1985) is a Nigerian lawyer, award-winning journalist and media entrepreneur. For a decade now, he has garnered key experience in all forms of traditional and new media, and has translated that practical experience into successful media campaigns; he is also recognised as a leading expert on New/Social Media and Youth Lifestyles. Above all, he has worked as an expert in development across the continent, mostly with The Future Project, which is focused on inspiring leadership, building entrepreneurs and innovative use of the media (traditional and new) tool for sustained social change, and which has reached millions of Nigerians, especially young people, in about 5 years.
5 Nigerians That Should Inspire You in 2016
4. Ibukun Awosika
Awosika made history by becoming the first woman to be appointed chairman of one of Africa’s largest lenders First Bank of Nigeria Holdings Plc in the bank’s 121 years of existence. She was non-Executive Director before her appointment in September. IbukunOluwa Awosika is a graduate of Chemistry from the Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife. She is also an alumna of the Chief Executive Programme of *Lagos Business School and the Global Executive MBA Programme of IESE Business School, Barcelona, Spain.She started her working career with Akintola Williams & *Co. as an Audit Trainee. Shortly thereafter, she moved to Alibert Nigeria Ltd, a furniture company, as Showroom Manager.
5 Nigerians That Should Inspire You in 2016
5. Bilikiss Adebiyi-AbiolaBilikiss Adebiyi is an inspiring Nigerian social entrepreneur and founder of WeCyclers. Her company offers waste collection and recycling services to the Lagos informal settlements, where an estimated 66% of Lagosians live. As a part of the process, residents are offered an incentive for collecting their household waste which is picked up for free by Wecyclers using specially adapted bicycles. Since Wecyclers started in 2012, the company has grown in leaps and bounds and has not finished any year without an award since 2013. This year, the social enterprise won the Seif Awards for social entrepreneurship. It also won $55,000 prize money at the Pitch For Lagos startup pitch event in July.

Quotes and lessons

Confucius Say: “Study the past if you would define the future.”
Why not study the strategies of those men in history who were the most successful of anyone on earth:
..The ones with the greatest architectural feats.
..The greatest political influence and the greatest spiritual influence.
..The ones with the greatest fortunes. They must have known something nobody else did.. what was it?

Statements That Deceive Students

 The power of the spoken word can not be over emphasized. Words have the power to uplift and destroy, which is why you should be careful as a student of the statements you listen to and take to heart.
Some students are defeatists, either by choice or due to circumstances in their lives, however a positive and optimistic attitude is a great asset to the successful person. Below are some statements you might hear and why you should not be deceived by them.
1. NO ONE GETS AN A IN THIS COURSE
Most students throw this statement around, usually from the very beginning of the semester. Already they are defeated even before the lecturer introduces the course, because they have reportedly heard from lazy students who have taken the course before. Do not let yourself be deceived, there is no course that cannot be aced. So throw away such statements and get to work.
2. A GOOD GRADE DOES NOT MATTER
While it is true that what you graduate with in the university does not determine the life you will live, do not be deceived that it does not matter at all. Usually those that say this are too lazy to apply themselves diligently to study and get good grades. You can determine, your grades by yourself, therefore it depends on you and the amount of work you put in.
3. YOU MUST BRIBE YOUR WAY THROUGH SCHOOL
Granted corruption is rampant in Nigerian universities, with many lecturers collecting bribes to upgrade grades and scores. However, there are still students who graduate, with good grades, without paying a dime as bribe. Therefore, do not be deceived by such a statement, as long as you do very well in what is expected of you, it is highly unlikely that anyone will hold you back because of bribes not paid.
 4. YOU CANNOT MIX SCHOOL WITH OTHER ACTIVITIES
While school work and heavy course loads, can eat up most of your time, do not be deceived into believing that other aspects of your life must be put on hold once you are in the university or college. You can mix other profitable activities, as long as you learn how to create a balance. Several students successfully run businesses side by side with school. Never limit yourself.
5. IF YOU DON’T HAVE A 2’1 YOU CAN NOT GET A GOOD JOB
This is another lie. Like i said above, hard work pays off and good grades matter. Yet, they do not determine your life. So if despite your best efforts, you do not see yourself graduating with great grades, keep your head up, most students go on to be successful in  life, even with poor grades.