Nobody wants to suffer a breakup in their
relationship. Breakups can be excruciation,
emotionally paralyzing and totally devastating. So how
do you handle it. Here are things you should not do
Don’t Rush Back Into
The Dating Pool
Your pride’s been hurt.
Your self-belief has taken a
bit of a beating. You need
to rebuild yourself before
you take the same risks
again. The simple rule that
people won’t tell you is
this: The more vulnerable
you feel, the more likely
you are to get hurt. Don’t
set yourself up for more of
the same.
Don’t Make It Personal
It’s easy to tell
yourself that if your
date/boyfriend/
girlfriend suddenly
vanished, it’s
definitely your fault.
Actually, it’s NOT. It
says a lot about
them — that’s a
cowardly and
superficial way of
resolving a
situation.
Don’t Try To Get
In Touch
Truly, they haven’t
fallen off the face of
the Internet, lost their memory or been kidnapped.
They’ve just decided to go after someone else instead
of you. Don’t try to persuade them to come back
because it won’t lead anywhere good. This is a
relationship that wasn’t right. The less you accept that,
the more humiliated and rejected you’ll end up feeling.
Don’t Try To Discover Their Reason
Even if they were to give you a reason, they probably
wouldn’t tell you the truth. Do you seriously expect
someone who has so little regard for your feelings to
respect you enough to give you an honest answer? Let
it go, and accept that moving on is the right thing to
do.
Don’t Fantasize About What Could Have Been
Maybe you thought they were Mr./Ms. Right, and
you’d have a wonderful happily-ever-after together.
They didn’t. Now you know that — if you didn’t already
— your imagination has a way of running away with
you that only makes things harder. You hardly knew
them, and you certainly didn’t know who they truly
were (which isn’t half as lovable as you thought).
Make a binding promise to yourself like, In the future, I
will get to know someone before I fall in love with
them.
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