Signs You Have A PerfectBoyfriend

 The truth is there is no such thing as perfect. So
let’s frame this list as ‘ perfect for most’. We all want
and desire that perfect match, the person we know is
the ‘one’ for us. We also know the likes and desires in a
partner look different for everyone, so this list is
created with the framework of what a healthy and
loving relationship might look like. We often desire to
be truly loved and accepted in our lives, especially
when we are in a relationship.
The most important thing about any relationship is
that love is the common denominator and that past
issues or concerns are not getting in the way and
hurting the current relationship.

1. He listens to you.
First and foremost, we all
want to be heard. We want
our values, opinions and
beliefs to be validated.
Even if they aren’t agreed
with, we want them to be
respected. The qualities of
a perfect boyfriend would
definitely include listening
to what you have to say.
He calls you just to hear
your voice, or texts you throughout the day to find out
what is going on in your life because he truly cares.
 2. He really is that
into you.
This doesn’t mean
that he is obsessed
with you and is
always blowing up
your phone or
constantly
contacting you. It
really means that he
is interested,
intrigued and
enamored by you.
His actions just
visibly reflect that.
When
your boyfriend
realises that his life
is better with you and he wants you in it every day,
then it is time to recognize the relationship could grow
into something more. He wants to spend time with
you, he tells you how awesome you are, and he is not
afraid to be honest with his feelings for you.
3. He talks about his feelings and emotions.
Even though society sometimes gives us the
impression that all men need to be hard, emotionless,
or “strong”; the real men out there let their guard
down to the ones that mean the most to them. Real
men talk about their feelings and emotions. There is
nothing wrong with men articulating their feelings or
emotions, especially to someone they spend a lot of
time with. Once you have a deeper intimacy with your
boyfriend, you know he is in it for the long haul. He
shares his past, his fears, his wants, and his desires
with you. When he talks about serious topics with you,
he is not afraid to love or to tell you how he loves you.
4. He accepts all of you.
This might me one of the most important aspects in
any relationship. Your boyfriend does not want to
change you. He accepts your good and your not so
good. He lifts you up and lets you know that you are
perfect in his eyes. You know you have a perfect
boyfriend when you know they are not trying to
change you, or manipulate and influence you to
become someone you are not. He tells you how pretty
you are. He even tells you that he likes the things you
hate about yourself.
5. He supports ‘you’ time.
Being in a relationship takes up a large part of
your life. However, your relationship should not take
up 100% of your time. Everyone has their own special
interests and hobbies in life. The perfect boyfriend
supports you doing things on your own or with your
best friends. He embraces time apart as much as he
embraces time together. He knows that each of
your lives can remain balanced while in the
relationship. He even texts to tell you to have an
amazing time with your friends, or he calls to say he
can’t wait to see you soon.
6. He is interested in what you enjoy.
He is truly interested in what you enjoy doing, or what
you like most in life. It does not mean that he has to
love everything you love, or do everything that you do.
You may be into music, but he loves art – and that is
perfectly fine. He really wants to know what excites
you and makes you feel alive in life so that he can
support your happiness.
7. He makes you laugh.
They always say that laughter really is the best
medicine. Not every boyfriend has to be a professional
comedian, but a perfect boyfriend does have a good
sense of humor. He is playful and likes to joke around
with you every once in a while. He might do silly things
only with you. You two might even have endearing
little names for each other too.
8. He is independent.
The perfect boyfriend provides for himself, lives on his
own, and takes pride in being an independent and
contributing member of society. It is never fun to go
on a ‘date’ and be the one picking up the tab all the
time. A perfect boyfriend is also someone you know
could possibly be a good husband in the future. If he
has his own independence, he can already provide for
himself – and maybe his future family too.
9. He fully trusts you.
Trust is the basis of all strong and meaningful
relationships. If trust is not present in any
relationship, chances are it will not last long. Trust is
essential. If you have trust there is no jealousy or
insecurities. Most relationships that include jealousy
stem from past relationship patterns that were not
healthy. These negative qualities sometimes
get carried over into the next relationship. A perfect
boyfriend would not be texting or calling every hour to
find out where you are when you are not together. We
all get a little insecure and jealous sometimes, but the
ideal man does not let it get the best of him and it
does not affect your relationship at all.
10. He always has your back.
Life includes ups and down, good parts and bad parts.
No matter what each of you are going through, you
are there to support each other. A perfect boyfriend
would definitely be one that stands by you through the
good and the bad. He’ll be by your side in any tough
situation you might be going through in life. He is
there to support you and to lift you up. He is there for
you through good and bad, encouraging you to keep
going even if you fall. He is your teammate, your
cheerleader, and the one that makes your life better
each and every day.
11. He doesn’t avoid conflict.
If something is bothering him or there is an issue, he
does not avoid addressing it. He is able to share his
own thoughts and feelings freely in a positive way. We
all have things that bother us. The perfect boyfriend
would share those issues instead of letting them
build up inside until they come out later in a
negative way. The stronger the communication is with
your boyfriend, the better your chances of working
through issues as they arise.
12. He makes plans with you.

The perfect boyfriend calls you, texts you, checks in
with you often and suggests things to do. He also
makes plans with you. He wants to spend his time with
you. If you are always the one initiating the
communication or making plans to see each other,
maybe he is not the best match for you.
13. He is thoughtful.
You don’t have to be necessarily romantic to be
thoughtful. Although, that is a great quality to have as
well. Being thoughtful could be something simple like
bringing you food when you are sick, or
doing something sweet to cheer you up when you are
having a bad day. He plans for special events because
he truly wants you to feel loved by him. The perfect
boyfriend considers your feelings and his reactions
reflect his thoughtfulness.
14. He cooks for you.
Society also likes to portray that the woman should
always cook. It’s the 21st century. We are no longer
living in Leave It To Beaver-land. This doesn’t mean he
cooks all the time, but hopefully he has a dish or two
he has perfected. Maybe he is a master on the grill.
There is something sexy about a man taking the time
to cook something just for the two of you. It is also
another outward act of his feelings for you.
15. His actions match his words.
If we don’t have our word, what do we have? Honesty
is a virtue and the perfect boyfriend will embody that.
When he says he will call you at 9pm; he does. When
he says you are going to hang out this upcoming
weekend; you do. When he makes promises to you; he
keeps them. If you are consistently being let down by
your boyfriend telling you one thing but doing
another, chances are he is not the perfect one for you.
16. He includes you with his family and friends.
Being introduced to family and friends might come
later in the relationship, but if you are in a long-term
relationship and you have not yet met his close friends
or family, he might not be the one. The perfect
boyfriend really wants you to meet his friends and
family because he enjoys spending time with you. He
enjoys being around you so much he wants everyone
he cares about to know about you and get to know
you personally.
17. He shows affection.
This is an important aspect. This does not mean you
have to make-out with your boyfriend in every public
place possible, but it does mean when you are out in
public he enjoys holding your hand, or putting his arm
around you and showing you affection. Affection is an
important part of any relationship. The perfect
boyfriend will outwardly show his love for you with
affection. He will also tell you how amazing you look
and how much he loves that dress on you. There is no
criticism of the way you look, just complete adoration.
18. He respects you.
This should be a no-brainer, but sadly there are many
relationships lacking the basic foundation of respect.
The perfect boyfriend would never, ever attempt to
push, hit, or lay a hand on you. He would never scream
and yell at you all the time or call you horrible names.
There would never be a valid reason for that to ever
happen! Going through epic fights and then making up
later is not an example of true love. The perfect
boyfriend is able to control his anger and work
through his issues so that they are never taken out on
you. He adores you. He would be so upset if anything
were to happen to you. He admires you deeply and will
treat you the best way he knows how.
19. He is willing to compromise.
If everyone agreed with each other all of the time, the
world would be a boring place. The perfect boyfriend
compromises on issues or making plans because he
wants the relationship to work. If you are always doing
what your boyfriend wants to do, and nothing that you
have ever suggested, then your boyfriend is not willing
to compromise. This is especially important regarding
holidays and family situations. When your boyfriend
compromises, you definitely know that he is
considering your feelings instead of only his own.
20. He shows sympathy.
When something serious is going on in your life and
you are having a really hard time, he consoles you. If
your dog dies, he is there. If something happens to
your family, he is there. Unfortunately, bad things will
happen in life and the perfect boyfriend will be by your
side through all of it. Even if he isn’t sure what to say,
he is there supporting you, holding your hand, and
letting you cry on his shoulder. If he can see that you
are visibly upset about something, he will ask you to
talk about it and not dismiss your feelings.