How to overcome inferiority complex

We all fall in the trap of comparison wherein we
inevitably compare ourselves with others. This
comparison does more harm to us than good. This
does not mean we stop looking up to others. But there
is a difference between learning from others and
simply comparing yourself with them and then feeling,
‘Oh! Wish I was like her!’
This comparison is the main cause of inferiority
complex. We compare ourselves with our neighbors,
colleagues, batch mates, celebrities, siblings and with
strangers too!
It happened with me several times that often while
traveling I spotted fashionable women around. I
looked at their dresses, their style and matching
accessories and then glanced at my attire which was
usually a comfy, simple dress. In the name of
accessories, I generally wore a wrist watch and my
make up comprised of a light color lipstick. That’s all.
So each time I came across a hip girl on street, I was
ready to sulk and to term myself a ‘dodo’. But this was
long ago.
Over time, with some self conscious efforts and with
company of some wise, supportive friends, I have
overcome my inferiority complex of not being able to
dress up in style. Also I realized that beauty lies in
simplicity. In the process, I have learnt several lessons
and am ready to share them here.

 Determine your specific inferiority
It is better to be specific than generally feeling low.
Narrow it down to a specific type first. Do you feel
inferior to rich people, educated people, good looking
people, famous people? First find out your category of
inferiority. I had the weird complex with people who
had a trendy, contemporary dressing style!
Once you are done with finding your category, lean it
further with names. List down the names of people. I
felt inferior with particularly two friends of mine. So
come up with the names. Once you have the names,
you need to know why you feel inferior to them. Do
they make you feel low? If yes, dump them right now
and move on. If no, then ask yourself ‘who says I am
not as good as that Xyz’? You have the answer and that
is the solution.
Your Thinking Matters
Eleanor Roosevelt said, ‘no one can make you feel
inferior without your permission’ and she said it so
right. It is us who feel inferior and if we change our
thinking, every thing about us changes.
There is a difference in being inferior and feeling
inferior. Being inferior is simply a game of relativity.
But not everyone feels inferior.
If we lay more emphasis on what others think about
us, we attract more problems in life. This is our life
and only our opinion should matter. Finding faults in
ourselves based on whether others find us good
enough or not is not going to help anybody. It
becomes dangerous when we may actually be better
than others but somehow feel worse than them.
Chuck that habit of taking others’ judgements about
you seriously and then feeling low.
Love Thyself
The one thumb rule for a happy life is learning to love
oneself. I am totally in love myself so much so that
many of my friends call me a narcissist. No doubt,
earlier I was not too confident of my dressing sense
but slowly, I overcame that guilt as well. And now, I
love myself just the way I am.
We would never even find the need of comparing
ourselves with others if we are satisfied with our ‘self’.
Loving oneself is the first step to achieve confidence
and that sets the path for high self esteem.
Stop wanting to be some one else. Just be yourself
and create your own identity. Someone probably
sometime told you that you were not good enough
and you have been carrying that luggage even today!
Drop it right now. I threw it off and I am much lighter
and better and happier.
Seek Positive Company
It is very important to be in company of people who
are very positive in nature. If you are surrounded by
people who spend half of their time in analyzing
others and judging them, probably you would get
influenced too.
Be with people who like others the way they are. Seek
positive company. In a good company and with people
who gladly accept you as you are, you would grow up
to be more confident of yourselves.
Finally, again, your confidence should not depend on
others. It should exude from within.
In the end, I would like to quote the following lines:
Do what thy manhood bids thee do, from none but
self expect applause;
He noblest lives and noblest dies who makes and
keeps his self-made laws.