If you’re with the most amazing partner on the surface of the earth, it is almost impossible not to talk about him.
Have
you ever had your dream Christmas present and couldn’t show it to your
friends? That’s just about how it feels to shut up about your amazing
partner.
There are things about your relationship
you can tell your friends, and there others you should not whisper a
word of. Here are some of the no-nos:
• You
absolutely cannot tell your friends about your partner’s intimate
secrets. If you get invited into your partner’s world to share in their
fears and vulnerabilities, you cannot share it with a third party. This
is because it is your partner’s story to share, not yours; not anyone’s.
•
Of course you cannot tell your friends that your partner dislikes them
and thinks they are stupid, vain or boring. Ideally, you are to be the
bridge between your friends and the people you date. You set yourself up
for antagonism when your friends dislike your partner or vice versa
because of something you said.
• Who stands to
gain if your friends know that your partner has a somewhat unappealing
body part? No one, really. If you respect your partner, and want to
avoid your friends laughing at you behind your back, you will keep the
story of your partner’s imperfections – a hairy bum perhaps – in your
bedroom where it belongs.
•
Unless your partner is a serial asshole who threatens your physical and
emotional safety, keep your fights to yourself. All couples fight, and
usually they patch up after tempers are calm. After you are all
gooey-eyed when the fight has ended, you may have a hard time convincing
your friends that you didn’t mean the terrible things you said about
your partner.
• Finally, unless you’re comfortable
with unsolicited acts of charity, you may want to hold on till your
creditors actually threaten to kick you out of your home before telling
your friends about the financial challenges you and your partner are
facing.
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